So I have a friend who tests ESxx whom I am certain has some sort of social/empathetic challenges. I feel for her because she doesn’t have a mean bone in her body and almost always means well, but really struggles in her relationships as well as socially. She often seems upset and confused because she knows she is different and is trying to figure out why.
I have read a bit about Asperger’s and she seems to “fit” in certain ways, but not at all in others. I know there are at least some people on this board with Asperger’s, so I was wondering if you can tell me if you think it is possible based on this description:
Intelligent and studious – she got her masters degree from a very good university and had excellent grades.
Huge gaps in her memory – forgets things quickly doesn’t remember people she has dated or even intimate encounters with.
Very social, yet socially inappropriate – she says thing people find offensive, but she has no idea she is doing it. Tends to speak quickly (almost in a manic way) and goes on at length, cuts people off when speaking, “glues” herself to people she is interested in, discloses very personal information, does a poor job of reading body language and noticing when people are disinterested in her.
Schedules every day down to the last minute and freaks if she can’t do something she planned to do.
Obsessively exercises – panics if she can’t.
Naïve and gullible – she takes everything people say at face value even if there is a pervasive pattern of behavior that suggest she shouldn’t.
“Promiscuous” (in quotes because I can’t think of a more accurate word) – Will sleep with any guy who says he likes her if he asks for sex because she takes what they say at face value.
Insistent – She tends to be very insistent about having things her way or trying to control a situation because she can’t seem to just “go with the flow”.
Anxious – She becomes very anxious when any kind of ambiguity is involved in a situation and is prone to seeming random bouts of panic.
Oddly Specific – e.g. I will be there at 10:32AM
Emotionally unaffected - e.g. works with handicap children as a physical therapist and is unaffected when one dies even if she has been working with them for years.
Is uncomfortable with non-sexual physical touch.
If she does end up dating someone, she usually breaks it off because she can’t tolerate basic things (the way he drags his fork across his teeth, the one crooked tooth, the sound he makes when he breathes).
Must be her definition of “perfect” before she can leave the house – every hair in place, make-up exactly as she likes it, etc (mind you she is not an over-done person, just must look a certain way before she is comfortable being seen in public).
Has a hard time understanding how what she says and does effects other people.
Has a pure heart and always tries really, really hard to do the right thing for people.
Thoughts? (Sorry for the long post)