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Spontaneity

Mole

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The nicest thing about spontaneity is that it is nice. It is nice to flow from one thought to another, from one feeling to another. But the nicest thing is that the gift of spontaneity is surprise.

Some don't like surprises and say so, and so naturally they hate spontaneity, for the price of spontaneity is surprise. It requires one to be relaxed and receptive, rather than tense and controlling.

But unfortunately we were compelled by law to go to school to learn to read and write, and sitting at our desk in the schoolroom, we were schooled to be tense and controlling. And not only do the literate control themselves, they control others as well. But worse, they believe control is good, and in being controlling, they are being good - good little boys and good little girls. In fact they exhibit control with all the pride of an obedient child.

And that is why we have therapy - to undo the damage done by literacy. In therapy, in a safe environment, we slowly learn to let go of control, and we learn to experience and tolerate all the feelings this brings. In therapy this spontaneous flow of feeling is called the abreaction. And without therapy it is the abreaction that keeps most of us controlled and controlling.

So we are in a daily trap set by schooling, but maintained in place by ourselves. But when we are in a trap, the only important thing is to get out.

Red Herring, for instance, is trying to get out of her trap. Herring has analysed her situation beautifully, but has made the mistake of using the same tools to get out of the trap as are used to keep her in the trap.

As a counter-point, Fidelia identifies entirely with her own trap and seeks to trap others.

But at our deepest, earliest point, we all love spontaneity and the spontaneous.
 
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