So when you stress the costs of a decision somebody has made he or she will get more defensive than when you mention both the costs and the benefits? I am amazed.
This does remind me of another study where they interviewed parents at very short intervals to see how stressed/relaxed and happy/unhappy they were feeling at the particular moment. No suprise they were on average more stressed out and worried than the child free control group. But they showed more overall satisfaction with their lifes despite objectively being constantly more stressed out.
The conducters of the OP study might call that a delusion. But you could just as well say that there are benefits related to how you feel when you look back at your life (what do you regret and what are you glad you did?) or when you consider your overall position in life. it is in this big picture ledger of happiness that children seem to be a big plus.
The good life is one inspired by love and guided by knowledge. Neither love without knowledge, nor knowledge without love can produce a good life. - Bertrand Russell A herring's blog Johari / Nohari
Heh. You can take any two variables and try to find a link between it. But of course, a link doesn't automatically mean the one thing causes the other. There is a famous example of this: in the years 1970, both the number of storks and the number of infants born declined heavily in Sweden. Does that mean storks bring children? Or was there something else - pollution maybe?
I think parental joy has a much simpler explanation. Genetics. Any genetic combination which results in more successful offspring is likely to get spread more. We're genetically engineered (read: evolved) to be happy parents.
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I'm not sure that's very good advice. Why do they say that?
Oh, they're just stressed out. I know they love their kids & likely don't truly regret having them, but I also think they long for the freedom of their childless days (including the financial freedom). They also already know I don't want or plan on having kids, so they're just reinforcing the positive aspects of my decision.
"Charlotte sometimes dreams a wall around herself. But it's always with love - So much love it looks like everything else. Charlotte Sometimes - So far away, glass sealed and pretty." - The Cure
Economics explains parent/child relationships about as well as chemistry explains music.
Originally Posted by wolfy
People forget that kids can do useful stuff like wash the car and dishes. "This isn't a hotel you know"
chores. yuck. but perhaps the only reason i may consider children.
how about this one... the cost input of dating and over exaggeration of spousal bliss?
this whole study is ridiculous. of course money stresses everyone out, and for some, this is perhaps one of the reasons as to why they won't ever have children. but for those that do desire a family, they're completely entitled to feel stressed out occasionally. but this isn't necessarily a sign that one is unhappy with family life.
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I only know flawed people who are still worth loving."