My boss bailed me up the other day, saying I'm not directive enough in my speech, and that's why I have trouble with people doubting me and even questioning me when I'm in a position of authority.
He even went as far to say it would get me in trouble out of work too, when I said I was not aware of how I phrase things (he's right though). I know my boss can be a complete arse sometimes, but he also has quite a lot of insight into people.
I've never before had trouble exuding authority before, but then, I've never worked in a fairly male dominated town before, where extremely sexist behaviour prevails.
In his own way, my boss is trying equip me with some new tools of communication, and make my way easier with the psycho nurses and doctors here.
I know people have talked about typical speech patterns of INFPs before, and I'm very guilty of that way of talking, so how do I fix it? Has any one got any advice?
Even when I think I'm being directive, apparently I'm not (my boss said my guilt trip inducing ways do not work here...I'm guessing because sublety is missed here.)
I'm not asking to change my personality or anything, but I'm actually thinking this might be useful in life in general, like when I start my latest business venture.