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    Default Is "I'm sorry" hard to say?

    Why is it so hard for some people to say "I'm sorry" and mean it? I know overly apologetic people are annoying as hell, but this is not the thread to rant about them. I'm more perplexed by the people who can never apologize. I once heard someone say "Never apologize, even if you're wrong", and this person never apologizes either. I know several people like this. Is it pride? I think perhaps theye fear that their credibility will be weakened if they ever apologize and weakened credibility is intolerable for them.

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    I hardly ever say "I'm sorry."

    I'll say something like "I'm sorry that this is the situation."
    Or "I'm sorry that you feel that way."

    But "I'm sorry"?

    Why would I be sorry? If I act like how I want to act...and another person doesn't like that...then it really isn't my problem. You can call it pride or having a big ego...I just call it being unapologetic for thinking and doing things how I think they should be done.

    The only time I'll say "I'm sorry" is when I have to to get/keep something that I want more than someone thinking that I think I did something wrong. In which case it's a lie..and I don't mean it.

    If this upsets you...I'm sorry you feel that way.

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    I have no problem apologizing, I don't usually do it, because I am hardly ever wrong. When I am, I don't like staying that way.

    It wont be heartfelt, but it will be sincere.


    Like, "I'm sorry. I was wrong."

    People who can't apologize just continue to be wrong, that goes off like a warning light in my head, and I quickly distance myself from them.

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    Quote Originally Posted by ThatGirl View Post
    I have no problem apologizing, I don't usually do it, because I am hardly ever wrong.


    Is that supposed to be funny, like ha ha?

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    I've been told I apologize too much. It's easy for me to apologize to people I feel either loving or neutral towards, and I do it in a heartbeat.

    I can have trouble apologizing if I'm mad, but when I calm down I will, unless I stand by my opinion or reasoning for a good reason...then, in that event, I will not apologize.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Marmie Dearest View Post


    Is that supposed to be funny, like ha ha?
    There have been several forum members who have received an apology from me.....I don't think you have been one of them.

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    Quote Originally Posted by ThatGirl View Post
    There have been several forum members who have received an apology from me.....I don't think you have been one of them.
    No, I mean, saying you're hardly ever wrong is either a joke or completely delusional.

    You're a human being. Give me a break.

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    is saying sorry easy?
    if truly sorry: no
    if forced to make an apology: yes
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    ThatGirl, do you only apologize if you were wrong about facts? What if you hurt someone you liked and cared about feelings?

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    Quote Originally Posted by Marmie Dearest View Post
    No, I mean, saying you're hardly ever wrong is either a joke or completely delusional.

    You're a human being. Give me a break.
    Yeah, but I don't usually take forceful stances when I am ignorant of the bigger picture. Remaining passive until I am absolutely sure then causing harm once, leads to a lot less actual "mistakes" then just going off half cocked all the time with no perception of the damage it could cause.

    Most of the mistakes I make only harm myself. That leaves a very small margin to be sorry for in my interactions with other people.

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