My reasons for creating this thread are personal as I have gracefully managed to enter somebody's Ignore List.
I was immediately reminded of a quote by Jane Austen: "My good opinion, once lost, is lost forever."
There have been threads about the Ignore function, where people express their opinions and whether they use it and such. I can fully agree that in essence it is a good idea to give people options to choose from. People certainly have the freedom and right to make their decisions and express them.
But I've been wondering whether the decision to ignore somebody on the forum or in real life might actually be detrimental to the person trying to ignore somebody.
Even if the person might, in their initial opinion, deserve to be ignored, wouldn't the actual process deprive the person ignoring somebody of the opportunity to deal with the negative association in the first place?
The negative connection has already been established, one can't really ignore the existence of somebody in a public place and any fervent efforts to do so will always keep the issue present in their mind even if it eventually reduces to a negative memory. Personally I find that incredibly limiting and doing more harm than the person initially fathomed.
People who have used / are using the Ignore List - how have you managed to deal with your negative associations with the persons you're ignoring?
Do you simply pretend that nothing ever happened and the person doesn't exist and they have nothing valuable to contribute? If not to your life, then do you extend that sentiment to others people's lives as well?
Do you think about the matter and in doing so, relive every bit of the negativity the occurrence created? How often?
Do you lose your good, or at least neutral opinion, for ever? Without any possibilities of being open minded towards these persons ever again?
How would you even know that you have the possibility to turn any negative emotions into neutral/positive if you decide to ignore the matter altogether?
Any other opinions?