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    I stumbled across this article today Spanking Ups Risky, Deviant Sexual Behavior - Mental Health Disorders on MedicineNet.com
    about new research stating that spanking your kids may lead to deviant behavior later on. A quote from the article,
    A meta-analysis of spanking studies conducted by Gershoff found 93 percent agreement among studies that spanking can lead to such problems as delinquent and anti-social behavior in childhood along with aggression, criminal and anti-social behavior and spousal or child abuse as an adult.
    Thats a pretty impressive claim. What do you all think? I don't have children, but my brother-in-law and his wife spank their son who is only 16 months old. I personally think thats too young, but is spanking ok at any age???

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    Quote Originally Posted by ArtlessFuture View Post
    I stumbled across this article today Spanking Ups Risky, Deviant Sexual Behavior - Mental Health Disorders on MedicineNet.com
    about new research stating that spanking your kids may lead to deviant behavior later on. A quote from the article,
    Thats a pretty impressive claim. What do you all think? I don't have children, but my brother-in-law and his wife spank their son who is only 16 months old. I personally think thats too young, but is spanking ok at any age???
    Not with a ten-foot pole and I don't mean to spank them with.

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    I was never spanked as a child, and don't plan on using spanking as a way to punish my own child.
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    I was spanked growing up... I'm still not sure if I'd implement spanking as a way to discipline my child/children. I don't think I will.

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    I am personally not a fan of spanking at any age, but I'm not sure I think it alone is the cause of the problems described in the article. I'll bet there are other features that are shared by parents whose kids have those problems.
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    I read the title of this post first, and then glanced over at OP's username and thought it was "AsslessFuture".

    Needless to say, I'm disappointed.

    Oh, and to add to the discussion: I was only spanked a couple of times growing up. I neither remember spanking nor the threat of being spanked to be any incentive to be good, and I don't think I would do that to a child, myself.
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    but I'm not sure I think it alone is the cause of the problems described in the article. I'll bet there are other features that are shared by parents whose kids have those problems.
    I think youre right. Maybe parents who regularly spank their kids also have other undesirable qualities. Like for instance, my brother-in-law spanks his kid, and also does other things that i dont agree with, which could add to the little guy having problems later as well.
    read the title of this post first, and then glanced over at OP's username and thought it was "AsslessFuture".
    Yeah I have gotten that before hehe

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    First, I would very clearly defined "spanking" -- it covers a wide gamut of disciplinary measures, but of course if it's taken to mean " indiscriminately beating your child," I doubt anyone sane would support that.

    I also didn't read the study in detail, but my first thought was, how do they know those behaviors stemmed from the spanking? (As others here have pointed out.)

    IOW, are there other qualities common to parents who also indiscriminately spank their children that could have influenced the child in these sorts of undesirable directions?

    I don't otherwise feel like getting into a spanking discussion. People usually have their minds made up and don't listen to each other, and the results become pretty and needlessly heated.
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    ah darn, I was hoping for some heated debate..well not really, just wanted a debate.
    But yes, spanking is an inflammatory topic. They were going to make it outlawed in California (where I live) but I don't know if it happened.

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    I think if the sixteen-month-old keeps trying to stick a slobbery finger in an outlet or keeps wriggling out of their car seat while you're driving down the road and you've already tried redirecting, rewards, and scolding, a stinging (not bruising) slap on a little fat thigh is not an unacceptable solution.
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