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    So....

    I am about to hit the door to turn in resumes and interview employers, and I realized I have absolutely no confidence right now. Basically this is my attitude:

    TG: Are you going to finally give me a fucking decent job or not?

    Employer: No

    TG: Yeah, I didn't think so....

    TG: You know what, I am not arguing with you!



    Where as before this was how I approached the situation:

    TG: Hi, I am TG, your new employee.

    Employer: Lol, Impressive.

    TG: Thank you.

    Employer: When can you start?


    Anyway, so the only thing missing in this scenario is a little confidence, and extroversion. How do you psych yourself out? Give your confidence and healthy boost? What are your strategies?

    Everyone does it. Before a date, before an interview, before a performance, etc.

    Anyway, just curious to hear how you guys go about it?

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    go to the bathroom and "powder your nose"

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    I don't fully understand your example. Either you possess the required skills, or you don't. If you do, minimal pampering is required. If you don't, better stay away from that job.
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    dunno, i just try not to think about this kind of stuff and just do it. if i start to think about that kind of stuff, ill start over analyzing it and see where i might mess up so clearly that i cant do the actual thing. if i try to do any sort of psyching, ill instantly start to over analyze and get anxious and maybe fail to work correctly because of the anxiety.

    trying to act confident doesent really work for me, i just need to do what i went there to do.

    i got one tip for you tho. you dont go there to interview the employer, you go there to be interviewed by the employer. find out as possible as much what the job is about and show that you want this job. ask questions about the job if you dont know something, it shows that you care about the job and they want someone who wants the job.
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    Quote Originally Posted by FDG View Post
    I don't fully understand your example. Either you possess the required skills, or you don't. If you do, minimal pampering is required. If you don't, better stay away from that job.
    For some, what it takes is a realization that they actually do have those skills. Or knowing what they're actually worth.

    If they really don't have qualifications but choose to lie about them, though, then they deserve to be nervous.


    I just went through all of this with a friend of mine who was nervous about an interview. After I reminded her that she got great reviews at her previous job, that she managed to land a managerial role after a mere year of experience, and that the company reaallly wanted someone with her qualifications, things suddenly weren't so nerve-wracking for her. She managed to land the job after simply talking about herself and her experiences during the interview.

    So.. I guess one way to boost confidence is to have a good support network?

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    I take confidence in the fact that I can adapt to any situation. I can learn anything fairly quickly, whether I like the thing I am learning or not. At least when it comes to jobs.

    When it comes to dates, I sorta just pretend we're friends hanging out.. if I don't, I get so shy that I'll just faceplant into the dinner table hard enough to knock myself out.
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    Quote Originally Posted by FDG View Post
    I don't fully understand your example. Either you possess the required skills, or you don't. If you do, minimal pampering is required. If you don't, better stay away from that job.
    Basic supply and demand.

    TG, answer the questions honestly and while it doesn't guarantee a job, it will ensure there's less to lie about if you're hired. Also, an interview goes two ways. You're both pitching to each other where there's no inferior or superior. If you have the skills they need, ensure they're made aware of them stated in a matter-of-fact way. I'd avoid any kind of arrogance in this employer's market since the corporate climate is focused on team players who are consistent and reliable performers.

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    Quote Originally Posted by FDG View Post
    I don't fully understand your example. Either you possess the required skills, or you don't. If you do, minimal pampering is required. If you don't, better stay away from that job.
    But how does someone else know you have the required skills? You know yourself better than anyone ever will, and it's hard to convey all you know and all you are to a complete stranger in 30 seconds or less. Come on...

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    Quote Originally Posted by Beargryllz View Post
    But how does someone else know you have the required skills? You know yourself better than anyone ever will, and it's hard to convey all you know and all you are to a complete stranger in 30 seconds or less. Come on...
    No.. but most employers are going to pass a judgment on you in about that amount of time. If you don't make an instant first impression of the highest order, you are not going to get the job.. I hired people for 6 years, so I even have a little experience here.

    Walking in with no sense of self confidence does not make a good first impression.. I only ever hired 2 people because I felt sorry for them, And I should have learned after the 1st time.

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    I spread my legs. Opening up myself physically quickly improves my confidence. Holding my fingertips together calms me. Opening up yourself physically slightly raises T levels.

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