You know like teachers do, when one minute they're bellowing at the class and the next minute they turn around and talk in a perfectly calm voice to an adult standing next to them? So like, it wasn't real anger, but sorta 'acted' anger, for the benefit of the class?
Well, I do it all the time. Especially when I'm driving. Some knobhead cuts me up on the inside and I'll shout "You utter cretin!" and flip the bird, but I'm really not actually angry, in fact I'm closer to joking and laughing than I am angry - feel my pulse and it's calmer than the calmest ocean, even whilst I'm yelling.
Many of the emotions I display are in fact not real emotions, but only skin deep - just playing around at pretending or showing whatever emotion would be most suitable for the situation, often for comic effect. In reality I'm on a very even keel 90% of the time and completely calm.
Now, this is something I've seen other people do too, I'm sure of it. But my ISTJ friend finds it all baffling - and incredible; he doesn't believe it. He thinks this is me trying to make out I'm pretending the emotions just because I'm "embarrassed" at having been "caught" being emotional. Personally I find that interpretation baffling! But whatever the case, he seems unable to fathom the idea of someone not standing 100% by every single word they utter.
And then, to top it all off, when I actually do show a real emotion, which I'd think most people would be able to tell the difference, he sits with a disdainful look as if to say he doesn't believe it's real, thinks I'm putting it on!! He uses the phrase "trying to win an argument by sheer force of personality", when I'm doing nothing of the kind, I'm simply saying what I think but because I think it so strongly, it comes out with the emotions attached to it in my natural, exuberant style.
So, anyone know what I mean? Anyone nodding right now while reading this? Is this an SJ/NP difference? An Si/Ne clash? Or a more widespread thing? Or is it just me and him?