illusion in this case meaning things like thinking that you understand some other person, when you actually dont, thinking that everything is fine with you and someone else when it actually isnt etc etc. vs reality where you know that you dont fully understand some other person, knowing that something is not fine between you and someone else.
my ENTP friend thinks that the illusion is all that matters, for me its the reality is all that matters.
imo if you live in illusion that for example something is fine between you and someone else, you cant do anything to fix it and you might do wrong things if you live by the illusion. or if communication doesent work, there is nothing you can do about it, if you think it does work. and if both people live in a illusion that communication does work, they can get derailed in different way in many things and in this case when the reality shows itself, you already have developed too many problems that might be too big to come over anymore. like imagine being in relationship with someone for years, then one day you realize that this person actually has no idea about who you are deep down, because he didnt understand you from the beginning and built his whole understanding about you based on illusion that doesent match the reality, and you have done the same. i think this kind of living in illusion can cause problems, but you wont know where the problem actually came from, until the reality of things hit you..
what do you guys prefer and why?