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    Quote Originally Posted by mmhmm View Post
    i am at my best with my family, i think we have a great understanding
    on how to interact with one other. which is odd because it's like
    they all speak a different language, and i've always seen myself as the
    translator in the family. translating parent language to kid language.
    brother language to father language. mother language to sister language.
    stuff like that.

    i guess that's all i do. just translate... but not get involved.
    i'm also the ... 'independent' one in the family. nobody really ever gets
    in my way and i don't get in theirs. it's a great understanding.

    so i dunno. i guess my role would be: freelance translator.
    ha...same with me...i get along with everyone and never really have misunderstandings or issues with them but seem to just step in every once and awhile to explain the other persons pov and intentions to the other...it's always been like that...my whole life...like they always misunderstood each other...so weird...

    but besides that...i think i'm maybe more te...?? not sure... maybe it looks like fe but it's really fi infused te i think haha i shouldn't attempt to explain what functions i'm using i have no idea but i'm like the peacemaker who makes everything easier..i understand what everyone wants and simplify it and say we'll do this while you do that then we'll all do this...i guess i help make plans and solve issues while taking up for everyone's right to be able to do what's important to them and get everyone to be flexible and understanding....that would be my role i guess...my mother said i was the glue in the family...i'm usually the one who liked everyone to come to my house and i would take care of everything...so it sucks that i've moved so far away...

    personality wise i'm totally always the same just more or less of certain aspects at different times...like anyone is i guess...sometimes i'm more mature and serious other times i'll be extra silly and goofy....but i'm pretty much the same with everyone.
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    I'm always myself but I compartmentalize a lot. I don't like explaining myself, (I make an effort in relationships. But it's hard for me to submit to that kind of scrutiny). I'm mostly open with my father, quite open in a different way with my brother and very guarded with my sister. I used to be very open with all of my family but it caused me a lot of grief. It seemed to result in being on the receiving end of constant advice. I can't stand being told what to do. But I love them and care what they think and don't like to hurt their feelings... ugh, just made it hard for me to do what I wanted to in life.

    The different levels work best and are related to where I think each person sits on the easygoing/critical continuum. It's nice to have the kind of Dad I can say almost anything to and he doesn't flinch.

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    I'm a little different online than irl - more focused. I'm pretty much myself around family except for avoiding certain topics of discussion involving politics and such.
    Step into my metaphysical room of mirrors.
    Fear of reality creates myopic morality
    So I guess it means there is trouble until the robins come
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    I want to be just like my mother, even if she is bat-shit crazy.

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    Quote Originally Posted by mmhmm View Post
    i am at my best with my family, i think we have a great understanding
    on how to interact with one other. which is odd because it's like
    they all speak a different language, and i've always seen myself as the
    translator in the family. translating parent language to kid language.
    brother language to father language. mother language to sister language.
    stuff like that.

    i guess that's all i do. just translate... but not get involved.
    i'm also the ... 'independent' one in the family. nobody really ever gets
    in my way and i don't get in theirs. it's a great understanding.

    so i dunno. i guess my role would be: freelance translator.
    That's a good insight. I do this too but get involved, becoming both translator and facilitator, smoothing things over much of the time through application of humour. But I'm finally learning not to get involved, to allow things to take their natural course even if it includes major fracturing of the family unit.

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    Yes, but that is really only because of my father. He is extremely unhealthy emotionally, so I try to avoid conflict, which would otherwise happen most of the time, since our worldviews are very conflicting.

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    I act very differently around my parents, and I am REALLY myself when I act in that way. I am more extraverted and aggressive (in typology definition obviously) and spontaneous/instictive.

    Because around others (except also some friends) I act withdrawn, for a bit of shyness but expecially for social convenience and education/social norms to get along.

    I don't seem the same person at all when compare "me with my family" and "me with others".

    What does it means? Which is my true personality?

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    Absolutely I do. I sound different and act more like an adult and less like a kid... It sucks, and I wish I didn't have to, but I do.
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    Short Answer: Yes

    Long Answer: I act the same around immediate family. Outside of that, I quiet down or get louder.

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    I go on the defensive around my family and go into family mode as well (remove anything somewhat scandalous, obscene, fun or liberated about my personality and life from the table)... I'm convinced that I'm a disappointment to them and the less they know about my life the happier they are
    “Oh, we're always alright. You remember that. We happen to other people.” -Terry Pratchett

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    I act very differently. It's hard to be myself.

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