My name is a classic in Hungary. Unfortunately I grew up with this name in the Netherlands and here it's trashy, unpronounceable and hard to spell. When I was little everybody told me they loved my name, but later on I had to correct more and more people's pronounciations. So my name is mostly a huge frustration to me. And it's strange here, so maybe it's one of the reasons why I don't fit in anywhere. Well, maybe I'd fit in in a strip club.
I was sitting outside the classroom waiting to go in, and I saw an airplane hit the tower. The TV was obviously on. I used to fly myself and I said, "There's one terrible pilot."
- George W. Bush -
My name is not especially common (well, it is more nowadays, but when I was a kid, there was only one other person with my name in our grade, and when I graduated high school she was still the only other person, in our class of 500, with my name). I think that has affected me to some extent. My name was going to be Michelle, and I'm thankful that it didn't end up that way. Nothing wrong with the name, I just don't think it would fit me. Of course, if they had named me that, maybe I would think that about my current name.
In recent years, I've noticed that people people refer to my name as a "stripper name" (like people on TV will say that, or people online who don't know my real name), and bitchy and/or slutty female characters on TV shows frequently tend to have my name. I don't know when it acquired that connotation, but at this point in my life I don't care. I'm glad it didn't have that association when I was a kid.
I think a lot about naming.... my favorite girl name is after my grandma, so it's old fashioned and not common, but not "weird" or hard to spell or pronounce. However, my favorite boy name is a traditional Irish name, and anyone who is familiar with Irish knows that spelling is damn near impossible in that language! I like the traditional spelling and I wouldn't want to Americanize it, but I also wouldn't want to stick a kid with a name that no one can pronounce or spell, either. As far as Irish names go, it's definitely one of the easier ones to spell and pronounce, but Americans would still definitely get it wrong. I might have to just use it as a middle name...
Masquerading as a normal person day after day is exhausting.
I don't think it does. If you learn to love yourself and accept your personality, it will naturally follow that you love and accept your name, whatever it might be. Suddenly, you'll see how they're connected, even if it felt strange to you before.