Enjoyable? Lucrative? Waste of time? A necessity to get on with one's life?
Do you believe that being social, connecting to people and spending time with them is an end in itself? How much of your time would you use for that if given opportunity?
Do you mind that conversation goes on the topics of shopping, bands, celebrities, food, drink, cars, people, houses and jokes?
Do you mind that conversation goes in some specialized topic that you DO know of, but it can't sidetrack?
When you think of something, i.e. a new find in science, a new building project, anything.. do you first think of
1) it's social side (i.e. how it is thought of)
2) it's factual side (i.e. what it is).
Which one of the two is inherently more important?
Being social for it's own sake
I've gotten over it. I feel that there's only so many new experiences to be had by socializing around and being a happy preppy social animal or whatever (insert your favorite social persona there.)
I haven't been in no mood to start being unsocial, either. What I do is that I meet people with whom I share some goals, people who have similar mindsets, or people with whom I make a good combination to solve some deeper issues in life, contemplate or perhaps do some projects with.
What I mean is that I don't first see a new person and go "whoa! a new person! Im gonna befriend him and then see if anything good comes out of it!"
What I mean is that I try to use discretion in befriending people so that the friendship would be lasting and mutually enjoyable, with perhaps some financially or philosophically valuable stuff to do together. I like to see beforehand the things that would make the friendship valuable.
Social networks - it's a glorified concept of using people as tools to find more people. If it's consentual, I can't go against it.
What I mean is that then you end up with 20 intermediate people connections per one person you'd really like to know.
I don't think that online social networks are an effective way to bring talent together, ideas together, business partners together or anything like that.
Offline, I'm not so sure of that either. I really like to contact people by reputation, talent and accomplishments, and be contacted because of those qualities as well. You don't need much of a social network for that.
"Who knows me and whom I know" seems pretty lame compared to that.
Now what really sucks is that I had a good customer base a while back, and I could get new jobs just by reputation. I lost it because of my burnout and partial inability to work a few years ago.
Still, I believe that recreating my reputation by working is a better way for me, as compared to becoming everyone's pseudo friend. It feels like natural to me.