yeah, it's stupid. i think the advantages have a lot more to do with self-sufficiency and the ability to be alone, to be more original, to be more private and not need everyone to know your business all the time, to not need to get something out of yourself to know what you think.Which brings me to another annoyance: The title is "Revenge of the Introverts" and the subtext on the magazine says, "How to Thrive in an Extroverted World". The book mentioned is called, "The Introvert Advantage: How to Thrive in an Extrovert World". Where's the revenge? Where's the advantage?
i don't even think the differences are so pronounced as many people would have us think. i always thought i was an introvert, but in reality i'm just a comparatively reserved extravert.
i thought i would feel more self-confident if i was an extravert, but come to find out i am one, nothing's really changed, except that i've embraced my extraverted tendencies more and it makes me happier. i guess all along the "wanting" to be an extravert was realizing i was sort of subverting myself.
i guess for me being an extravert, especially an ExxP, is mostly about being really affected by my environment. not in Se or Si terms - i'm kind of oblivious sometimes - but i have a need to act and interact, or at least to be in an arena where action is taking place. the downside of being an extravert is that i don't like to sit by myself alone much (alone with the internets is fine because i'm act/interacting), but alone in thought i don't like because i begin to get caught up in all of my own insidious worries and fears without the external world to help balance me. that's kind of embarrassing to admit, but it's true. i need external stabilization, and i like external motivation. i also feel a huge need to act in the external world. if i don't, then i don't feel like there's a huge point in my existence. it's lovely to be me but i also need to leave a mark on my environment.
don't get too down on yourself. job applications and certain bosses always want an ESTJ, but we all know the person that's best for the job isn't always an ESTJ. the head of the company probably isn't even an ESTJ. we all have talents to use and maximize. and let's face it, being talkative and assertive isn't even extraversion, it's just Te and Fe.Originally Posted by Robopop
my point being, even us extraverts don't live up to being "extraverted". it's a dumb cultural standard that, like most stereotypes, is grounded in a truth (the usefulness of interpersonal skills) and when taken to the extreme is both stupid and harmful.