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    Default TypoC, the Internet, and Opening Yourself Up


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    It seems pretty clear to me that the internet has provided a way in which people can share themselves openly to others with varying degrees of security and comfort. The mask of relative anonymity is certainly one big factor, but this question is intriguing to me:

    What is it about TypoC in particular that engenders such emotional and personal exposes?


    For me, what has, at the very least, kept me here for as long as I have been (internet-wise - three weeks + is a long time for me), are the values upon which this community is based. If you're interested in Typology in the slightest bit, it says to me that, at the very least, you are someone who is interested in understanding yourself, if not other people as well. The strength of a community is going to be primarily, if not solely, dependent on the values around which it gathers.

    Emotional healing or catharsis also, in my opinion, has no better ally than compassion and understanding. There is a reason why when somebody kicks you in the shin, your instinctual reaction is to want to kick the person back or possibly worse. You want the person to feel at least EXACTLY what you are feeling. This equal-or-more exchange in pain is what allows a person to feel understood, and by feeling understood, are able to recover from their experience. It's not dissimilar to the desire to exchange money that is equal in value to the goods or services you are looking to acquire. And if the person that has done you harm is unavailable, you'll take it out on someone else. The point is that such emotional decisions, anywhere from a personal expose to a vengeful attack, is a plea for this kind of understanding that can lead to true healing.

    As far as privacy is concerned, my personal approach to vulnerability and exposing myself to anyone anywhere, not just the internet, is based on this rule:

    If I tell anyone other than myself, then I can pretty much assume that everyone knows. That is to say, the best kept secret is the one you keep only to yourself. So if I am telling a story that I would not feel comfortable having everyone in the world know about, then I keep my mouth shut.

    What do you think it is about TypoC that makes it a place for such personal yet public exchanges?
    What are your own rules with regard to personal privacy? And finally...

    Why are you here? And why do you stay?


    Feel free to post any thoughts at all.


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    Not sure how to linkback or whatever, so i'll post the related thread here. Forum and Online Dynamics

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    Quote Originally Posted by SecondBest View Post
    What do you think it is about TypoC that makes it a place for such personal yet public exchanges?
    What are your own rules with regard to personal privacy? And finally...

    Why are you here? And why do you stay?
    I dont believe that I'm that public, I dont say anything I'd not say in person and I'm cautious about some of the content, I do think that people volunteer stuff online sometimes which they'd be annoyed about a census collector or police officer quizing them about. It could be a big social engineering experiment I guess.

    I'm here because its a psychology website and I love psychology, I stay because there's good company and members make things interesting.

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    I don't share anything here that I would be devastated if someone I knew read. I'd maybe prefer that they didn't, but there's nothing I'd tell people that I wouldn't in normal real life conversation as well.

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    I'm not this open in public social interaction. I like that I can share what I wish and keep silent when I want. Yet, I still feel I'm connecting with people. I love to hear a different perspective and share one when I think it is useful/logical to do so.
    I am here because there is a wide spectrum of people to apply to my personal manual to life, and I can relate them to others in my immediate environment. It helps me to co-exist in the world around me. Sort of an experiment, as all things are...
    I stay because there is always something new, someone familiar, someone with greater knowledge, someone with less, and the site is moderated and set up well.
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    What do you think it is about TypoC that makes it a place for such personal yet public exchanges?

    Talking about things is healthy. There are people here with wisdom. There's usually at least one person wanting to listen.

    What are your own rules with regard to personal privacy?

    No matter how revealing something I post publically sounds, it's not for me, I do not reveal anything I haven't come to terms with and would willingly tell anyone if it came up in conversation. I'm not inclined to tell people a lot of things about myself irl for no reasons other than I don't consider it relevant and I don't want to bore them by talking about myself. Here it doesn't matter, you find your space and those who want to, listen, or not.

    I've made no effort to hide my identity, that lack of privacy means I'm not complacent about talking of things I should be telling people irl first.

    Why are you here? And why do you stay?

    I came for the cookies, I stay because I owe a blood debt.

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    What do you think it is about TypoC that makes it a place for such personal yet public exchanges?

    Others are doing it too. You can choose not to share, but you can if you want and it's not considered all that strange. Usually you don't stick out as a sore thumb because there's always somebody here who can relate, who is willing to listen, who has some insight to offer. If you have a problem or you're troubled by some thoughts, there's help to be found, so this place is a somewhat safe environment for sharing and possibly healing.

    What are your own rules with regard to personal privacy?

    I don't follow any definite list of rules, I go with my moods, my feelings at any particular moment. Sometimes I'm fine with sharing, sometimes I'm not. There really isn't anything I've shared here that I wouldn't share anywhere else if I wanted to. However, I do the push and pull thing quite often, by sharing things way too much and then closing off in a heartbeat again. I can't undo the things I've done, so I'll just have to live with it.

    Why are you here? And why do you stay?

    Where else would I be? Habit.

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    I believe that it is the security of a group of tribe... typec would offer a certain level of acceptance that may not be availbale in the world and definitely a level of understanding... suddenley I can explain my reaction to a certain event and know that 1/16 (VERY ROUGHLY) of the population here will get it and the other will be able to understand where I'm coming from.... There is also a certain level of forgiveness too... That's because she is an ENFP, she can't do it any other way.... On top of all this essentially we are talking about personality here (Well some of you are I usually just mess around )and so we have to talk about personal things....
    ... couldn't drag me away

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    Smile Opening Up in the Encounter Group on the Internet

    As we moved from a literate society to an electronic society, the National Training Laboratory (NTL) in the United States knew we would have to learn new ways of relating to one another. And so the Encounter Group was born.

    I was fortunate to be part of the first Encounter Group in Australia in the Psychology Department of the University of New South Wales. And it was a life changing experience.

    But now the Encounter Group is ubiquitous and even the traditional Catholic Church has been running Encounter Groups for decades.

    And so do we. What we are running here, quite successfully, is an Encounter Group. But instead of sitting face to face in a small room, we encounter one another electronically across the world.

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    SecondBest, your latest posts/threads are leading me to wonder if you are so/sp rather than the reverse, especially with the distanced, in-depth preoccupation for answers regarding forum-wide social hierarchy, clockwork dynamics, etc. What do you think?

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