Inspired by Mempy's thread on "Damsels", I started this thread.
The same visceral dislike that Mempy seemed to have towards damsels, I have of machismo and posturing.
By Posturing, I more specifically mean:
Not sure what questions I have about this, so feel free to comment about whatever tangent pops into your minds.1. To assume an exaggerated or unnatural pose or mental attitude; attitudinize.
I'll give some background on why I have such visceral, negative feelings towards machismo.
I associate being "macho" with acting like a drug-dealing kid.
I went to middle school and high school during the nineties. To me, it seemed like drug and gang violence among kids was at its peek during these times (at least it seemed a lot less prevalent in the news since then). The drug-dealing kids in particular went about school posturing, openly wearing their beepers and cell-phones (at the time only drug-dealing kids had them). They would pick fights regularly. Several kids were hospitalized. One was sent to ICU. As far as I know, none were killed. I also noticed, at the time, the closer you acted like these kids the more "cool" you were. They were predominantly boys (no girls I knew of dealt drugs, though there were users). You were seen as somehow more "manly" if were part of some gang. I stayed as far away from this scene as possible. I didn't even want to know the gang names. But it was clear, in school, that there were people wearing similar colors all the time and hung out together. (I was glad to be pulled out of this environment to a "special" high-school. Very little of this original element was left inside my high-school.)
Since this time, I have always associated machismo and posturing with this atmosphere. I generally don't have strong political opinions, but every-time I see the "macho swagger," even in the likes of George W. Bush, I have a visceral urge to kick the person in the face. I realize, in the 10 years since, the gang-banger "style" has become mainstream. My family has since moved to much more privileged neighborhood. I still get the same visceral urge when I see my brother dressing in a similar style or hear him using similar verbiage. I know him to be a good kid, but I wonder if he realizes what gangs actually do/did.
I'll also give some starter questions:
1) Do you feel pressure to act macho, or overtly masculine?
2) Are you attracted/repulsed by a macho man?
Any comments, really.
Just wanted to start a discussion going. I believe I have exposed one of my deepest biases. I can't say it is even a bit rational. But there it is.