What I was asking is if it is a difference in degree, or a difference in kind?
By this, I mean, is machismo just masculinity*<a very large number> or is it something different entirely.
I realize that masculinity is some thing you like, while machismo is something you dislike.
I was trying to find the boundary.
So far we've identified insecurity, and "acting" as two separating factors.
Still, I have yet to meet any person who had no insecurities, or any person who wasn't "acting" to some extent to get along.
So these seem like differences in degree as well.
Perhaps, a more basic question is needed: What is it that people find masculine? (I realize this has been addressed to some extent)
In the U.S. it is different for urban and rural areas, it seems like. In both areas, there is an element of self-sufficiency (which I like), as well as "I can take any pain" mentality (which I dislike). I was not born in the U.S. so my cultural images are a bit crossed.
Again, any further thoughts are appreciated.
I am in kind of a rambling mode myself.