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    Question Is it better to be fear and hated or loved and accepted?

    No one wants to be fear and hated.

    But what if the former involves being yourself and the latter involves suppressing your personality?
    The fear of poverty turns people into slaves of money.

    "In this Caesar there are many Mariuses"~Sulla

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    go make these stupid topics of yours to your own sub forums
    "Where wisdom reigns, there is no conflict between thinking and feeling."
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    Moved from The NT Rationale.

    Andre Gide says it best: "It is better to be hated for what you are than to be loved for something you are not".

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    Quote Originally Posted by Trinity View Post
    Andre Gide says it best: "It is better to be hated for what you are than to be loved for something you are not".
    Ditto.

    Long-term, it's just not worth it to be "fake"; it's like you don't really exist, if you are constantly being another person.
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    Loved and respected works nicely...

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    I don't think that "being yourself" would mean being feared and hated. Except if you are a sociopath, but then you probably wouldn't be pondering this question. Usually it seems more like the people who are unable to go all the way being themselves are feared and/or hated. I haven't met a scary person that was being honest with themselves.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Jennifer View Post
    Ditto.

    Long-term, it's just not worth it to be "fake"; it's like you don't really exist, if you are constantly being another person.
    Wow! That can only ever be relatively true, for instance you wouldnt want to tell Ed Gein, Ted Bundy et al that they should "Just be yourself" and "Do whatever makes you happiest" you know?

    Its only possible to feign or fake a particular state for so long, that's true but you got to keep in mind that if you're a psycho you should deal with that by getting help, not "following your bliss" like for instance a quirky artist who ditches the day job in office cubicle land could.

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    It depends on the audience, I'm not worried about some people fearing and hating me, like Alexander The Great said who cares if the hate so long as they fear, it might not even involve fearing me so much as the law or consequences, if that protects me then I'm just fine with that.

    Although as a rule I'd prefer to be loved and accepted I dont expect it.

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    Feared if you ask the Red Queen
    "...Have you fallen in love with the wrong person yet?"
    Jace said, "Unfortunately, Lady of the Haven, my one true love remains myself."
    "At least," she said, "you don't have to worry about rejection, Jace Wayland"
    "Not necessarily. I turn myself down occasionally, just to keep it interesting"

    - The City Of Bones

    Here is my blog where I post my thoughts and feelings. Please have a go and comment if you like.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Lark View Post
    Wow! That can only ever be relatively true, for instance you wouldnt want to tell Ed Gein, Ted Bundy et al that they should "Just be yourself" and "Do whatever makes you happiest" you know?

    Its only possible to feign or fake a particular state for so long, that's true but you got to keep in mind that if you're a psycho you should deal with that by getting help, not "following your bliss" like for instance a quirky artist who ditches the day job in office cubicle land could.
    There is a difference between pretending to be something you are not, and working to improve who you really are. Thus even the Ted Bundy's of the world should be themselves, they should just recognize that "themselves" need work.

    As for me, I prefer respect that I have earned. Anything else is above and beyond, and I will not do much simply to achieve it.

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