Well, in my country - Croatia- there are so many rasistic people. Whenever I hear someone hates somebody based on nationality, or anything like that, I just dismiss person and dont want to have contact with her, any. But problem is when those people are my family... about 90% of my family from my dad's side hate all Serbian people (which is my mother), to the point of not wanting for Serbian to enter their house EVER, my cusine was in relationship with Serbian guy and for 4 years they didnt let her bring him home and didnt want her to marry him.
That mentality is everywhere around me. My mother still cant tell, she hides it, to 80++% people that she has contact with in job/friends/family that she's Serbian. Not to mention what would happen to gays etc.
So, my mom is not so bothered by this because she secretely despises 80+% people around her, but she is still keeping contacts because if she quits contact with everyone who hates Serbian she'd get fired and lose 90% of friends and family.
But I cant do that, i cant put aside what i know about my aunts and still have contact with them, but on the other hand I cant end contact with EVERYBODY bc I care, in a way.
I also cant keep my mouths shut, I am avoiding many people from my family, because whenever someone says something racistic I dont want to be quiet....but that would lead to fights and in the end only change would be i'd be isolated completely, and they are only family i have.
i know it sounds like i should end contacts but its not so simple...