Most of my family is racist, or prejudice in some way towards the majority and/or culture of one "race" or another.
My mother is dating an overweight black man, which is only interesting because she still calls certain kinds of black people "niggers" and also she calls fat people "fatties". He doesn't seem to care except when those words are directed at him.
My sister dates non-whites, primarily blacks, but they're always the stereotypical "Urkel" blacks or the well-mannered, conservatively dressed blacks.
My dad doesn't like anyone who isn't a christian fundamentalist, white racist(including me).
My grandparents are indifferent until someone in the family is suspected of "crossing certain lines". Some of my aunts/uncles/cousins are extremely racist against mexicans, blacks, asians and other hispanics, specifically.
I'm not racist, but I probably seem racist to some people who haven't had certain race conversations with me. I think it's fun to enter the racist's reality tunnel and try to think and act like a racist from time to time, but I like entering all kinds of reality tunnels because i'm an exopsychological explorer or something.
An example of my seemingly racist behavior: If I'm walking around downtown after sunset and I see a group of young black men hanging out on the sidewalk(especially in front of an alley) I will ALWAYS avoid them, either by walking across the street, changing directions or walking around a block through other side streets. This is not because I hate or despise blacks or because I think I am superior to them, but because blacks are much more violent than whites. I'm not afraid of being raped but I would like to avoid being beaten, robbed and/or murdered.
I am very tolerant of racists because I know they are carrying the old prejudices that were once important for maintaining tribal identity. Eventually these types of thoughts and behaviors will disappear, whether we attempt to change them or not.
Its like the conservatives who still believe we live in a god-fearing, capitalist republic or the old hippies who still think communism is relevant. They will die off eventually and in two or three generations people will look at racism the same way we look at child sacrifices today, a necessary relic from the past that no longer has any place in modern civilization.
BTW, the only non-racists in my family are the ones who are LOWER MIDDLE CLASS/POOR. The most racist of my family are upper middle class or upper class. This is not rare. Most racists probably are poor or undereducated, but most people are poor/middle class or undereducated. I'm sure that you'll find a greater percentage of racists in white upper class america than you will in white lower class america.