What do you wish your parents had done for you as a child?
What did they do which really stands out as significant?
Everything they do is for their children. They work extremely, extremely hard and saves everything just for our future. Financially and sentimentally, they are the most self-sacrificing parents I know.
I was always really shy and timid... and so never expressed a desire to do much of anything.
I can't help wondering if you yourself are self-sacrificing?
Oh wow, I understand your post, Victor.
Somewhat. I am INFP after all, but I also grew up in the individualistic, independent, slightly selfish, personal goal attaining American culture. My life is mine, not my future husband's and only partially my future children's. MINE.
He's serious, Rebe. What's up with you and Wind In the Willows, Victor?
It's well written. It reads well. And my parents read it to me as a child.
It's available to us on our computer screens. And the telephone is available for free.
In fact it is just as easy to connect two as it is to connect three.
So let me extend my invitation to both you Rebe and you Fidelia to read Wind in the Willows from our computer screen, on the telephone, to one another, turn and turn about.
So Rebe reads the first paragraph and Fidelia reads the second paragraph and I read the third, and so on until we have read the chapter.
What can I say? Wind in the Willows is simply delightful and Mole and Ratty and Toad are my friends and I would like you to meet them.
- I wish they taught me to experience life and find challenges and be strong and courageous instead of teaching me to be afraid/anxious of everything.
Somewhat. I am INFP after all, but I also grew up in the individualistic, independent, slightly selfish, personal goal attaining American culture. My life is mine, not my future husband's and only partially my future children's. MINE.
Other than that, they were pretty good parents. A bit bossy about the little details of day-to-day life, but I can't complain much at all. They were so sensible I had a hard time rebelling. Maybe rebelling is what I really needed.
That strikes a chord. I'm an adult reaching mid-life and I find myself in a weird "rebellion" mood where I openly challenge a lot of things that in the past I did not fight against. Sometimes I feel like I even pick fights, purposefully, and I'm not sure why... except maybe to assert my ego and be challenged in turn, thus helping me discover the boundaries and capabilities of my own self. It just is a little unsettling to be doing it now.
As weird as it sounds, I wish my SJ parents had pushed me harder. As long as I was "on track" (grades, playing well with others, church), then everything was okay.
I doubt they'd have opened up an alternative life so I ended up being an artist in a basement hole in NYC or anything, but there were a lot of things out in the world that I had no idea existed. If they had pushed, maybe I would've reached higher, further.
Other than that, they were pretty good parents. A bit bossy about the little details of day-to-day life, but I can't complain much at all. They were so sensible I had a hard time rebelling. Maybe rebelling is what I really needed.
But I'd be in the USA, I could've ran off and joined the circus!If your parents were Asian, they would have pushed you so hard, you'll have bruises all over your ass to show your children what the fuck would happen to them if they never listened to you.
You want that?