What do you think her type is? We all did this team building personality test. You could score sympathetic (me), technical (her), expressive, and bold. God she let that test get to her head even more, it inflated her ego big time. Did more damage then good lol.
Fe | Ni | Se | Ti ... 3w4 ... Lawful Neutral ... Johari -Nohari
We all take turns hurting others and being hurt by others. Often times it's inadvertant, but when it's acted out in vengence, then it's hate. It's a shame because it continues the cycle of blame. Victims victimize in the moments of hate and whatnot. I've done it before, most people have. It's normal to some extent but dangerous if one stays in that place and never learns from painful, frightenind hate provoking experiences.
I always try and look past the acts to the reasons behind the behavior. Behavior says a lot about where an individual is at, and not necessarily everything about the person. Many people don't look that far.
Also I think we tend to hate aspects of characteristics or acts in a person because something about what we witness, triggers a judgement etc within us. This is how we can learn more about ourselves so we can identify why something causes us to feel hatred. Often times, it is just speaking to us without us conciousely knowing or understanding why. It is important to look within, after we have looked outward. Also, this process converts hatred to empathy and leads to grace and forgiveness.
I think a lot of people use hate as something to distract them from what is hurting them. Instead of sit down there and introspect on a scenario in which the only thing left to do is move on, some people are may not be content with just moving on, and thus they hate what may have caused them pain; I think that since in most cases hate can help someone feel in control or powerful when sometimes they have much control on what goes on outside . When someone then discovers that others hate the same person, that hate can be then used as common ground to forge connections; but the hate is only validated further making only harder to divest. Also some deep down may not really want to let go of what may have hurt them and hate is a way of still being connected to that scenario or to that person that caused the pain. One of the biggest problems with hate is that someone could end up purposely opening old wounds, sometimes to the point of the process becoming habitual and almost second nature; instead of learning from the painful events of the past. Personally I think that sometimes the person hurt the most by someone's hate is themselves
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I think hate maybe has something to do with being a way to feel a strong emotion without becoming vulnerable. Often people hate those who make them feel like they have no control over their fate. Sometimes hate is a default setting because they do not trust anyone and experience has told them that when they expect the worst, they cannot be disappointed, nor can anyone surprise them. It's often a kind of insecurity - choosing to reject someone before they can be rejected by the person. When it is directed at a specific person, often I think it is a response to feelings of rejection. Nothing is worth that much emotional energy unless there is some purpose for it.