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  1. #61
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    Quote Originally Posted by Peguy View Post
    No they're Japanese, she meant Hashshashin.
    Funny, I was reading that wiki page around february time, I think. Those crazy shias. tsk tsk

    I do like swords.

    But I think if I pulled one out on a man who cheated or defiled my honor in some way as a way to intimidate, I'd still be viewed as a joke.

    Anyway, I think showing a bit of jealousy is healthy for a relationship.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Aramis View Post
    Anyway, I think showing a bit of jealousy is healthy for a relationship.
    In what way do you see it as healthy?

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    read more about hassan i sabbah, i first read about him in science fiction novel.

    i think showing a bit of jealousy is good too. i would never tolerate a woman flirting or talking to another man, must always wear burqa in public too.
    “Some people will tell you that slow is good – but I’m here to tell you that fast is better. I’ve always believed this, in spite of the trouble it’s caused me. Being shot out of a cannon will always be better than being squeezed out of a tube. That is why God made fast motorcycles, Bubba…”


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    Quote Originally Posted by Aramis View Post
    Funny, I was reading that wiki page around february time, I think. Those crazy shias. tsk tsk
    Yup. Although they did manage to successfully sneak into Saladin's camp several times and place daggers right next to his bed as a warning. So they did have some skill. Probably could break out some of the sources I have on them if you want.

    Oh well - enough derailing this thread.

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    You're drunk/drugged, right Marduk?

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    Quote Originally Posted by Trinity View Post
    In what way do you see it as healthy?
    When both people have a balance and similar idea of what they are comfortable with allowing and implementing that into practice. Not being hypocritical helps.

    If the guy can't flirt with random girls, nor should the girl with random guys, etc.

    Establish some boundaries so that people are on the same page.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Trinity View Post
    You're drunk/drugged, right Marduk?
    Yeah, he's learning what it's like to be loved by an ENTP. You know what that does to mortals!

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    Quote Originally Posted by Aramis View Post
    When both people have a balance and similar idea of what they are comfortable with allowing and implementing that into practice. Not being hypocritical helps.

    If the guy can't flirt with random girls, nor should the girl with random guys, etc.

    Establish some boundaries so that people are on the same page.
    Sure, that's all fine, but what does setting consistent boundaries have to do with jealousy being healthy? Surely it's the boundaries and understanding of what is and isn't acceptable that's the healthy part?

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    Quote Originally Posted by Aramis View Post
    Yeah, he's learning what it's like to be loved by an ENTP. You know what that does to mortals!
    Poor, poor man *shakes head sadly*

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    Quote Originally Posted by Trinity View Post
    Sure, that's all fine, but what does setting consistent boundaries have to do with jealousy being healthy? Surely it's the boundaries and understanding of what is and isn't acceptable that's the healthy part?
    Because some people are okay with it...as long as both parties are okay with it, and even see a bit of jealousy as a good thing...then these are healthy boundaries, the jealousy can be expressed in a healthy manner because they understand each other, and aren't going to do things to provoke one another, either.

    Jealousy is a normal human emotion just like happiness, sadness, lust, anger, love, etc. and calling jealousy "bad" or "unhealthy" is really ridiculous, because emotions JUST ARE. It's what you choose to do with those emotions that makes all of the difference between a thinking person and one that doesn't think. It is BEHAVIOR not FEELINGS that make the situation healthy or unhealthy.

    Jealousy is a symptom of desire, and I don't see the problem with it, especially in the early stages of a relationship where you're not yet totally sure of each other.

    I guess some people do jealousy, and some don't. It's really ultimately up to the couple.

    I think the point in which it becomes unhealthy is if it's excessive and unfounded, and begins to spiral into abusive behavior.

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