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  • xNTP: positive thing/something I can appreciate/like when displayed/sign of commitment

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  • xNTP: negative thing/something I don't appreciate/dislike when displayed/sign of problems

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    I wonder if those who get jealous easy are selfish in regards to relationships. I have a friend who comments every time my open relationship gets brought up that she couldn't possibly be in an open relationship since she'd be too jealous. She is also a big proponent of fairly conventional relationship dynamics (she's submissive and deferential to her boyfriend, he treats her like she's owned by him and she's okay with that, etc.) and I wonder if jealousy kind of stems from that sort of thinking. I feel like I couldn't possibly be jealous of my girlfriend since I don't feel like it's my place to put any kind of power dynamic over her in our relationship. We consider each other's feelings in everything we do and it works out well and jealousy never enters into it at all. I feel like that's kind of hard to explain and that I'm rambling a bit so I'll stop here.
    “You have your way. I have my way. As for the right way, the correct way, and the only way, it does not exist.” -Nietzsche

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    Well, some people see open relationships as selfish - like wanting your cake and eating it too, wanting the comfort of a relationship without having to make a real commitment to another person.

    It's really a matter of perception. You have your way. Other people have theirs.

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    Quote Originally Posted by marmalade.sunrise View Post
    Well, some people see open relationships as selfish - like wanting your cake and eating it too, wanting the comfort of a relationship without having to make a real commitment to another person.

    It's really a matter of perception. You have your way. Other people have theirs.
    True enough. I've been accused of being selfish enough that I should have considered that.
    “You have your way. I have my way. As for the right way, the correct way, and the only way, it does not exist.” -Nietzsche

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    Quote Originally Posted by Pixelholic View Post
    I wonder if those who get jealous easy are selfish in regards to relationships. I have a friend who comments every time my open relationship gets brought up that she couldn't possibly be in an open relationship since she'd be too jealous.
    I don't do jealousy, but I'm also not interested in an open relationship (or a conventional relationship like your friend). So no

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    Quote Originally Posted by Pixelholic View Post
    I wonder if those who get jealous easy are selfish in regards to relationships.
    I don't really see it as selfish. More as an over reaction to a desire to protect a dynamic.

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    Quote Originally Posted by wolfy View Post
    I don't really see it as selfish. More as an over reaction to a desire to protect a dynamic.
    +1
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    Quote Originally Posted by marmalade.sunrise View Post
    Well, some people see open relationships as selfish - like wanting your cake and eating it too, wanting the comfort of a relationship without having to make a real commitment to another person.

    It's really a matter of perception. You have your way. Other people have theirs.
    word.
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    Quote Originally Posted by Trinity View Post
    YLJ stance on jealousy is curious to me:



    What say yee on the subject of jealousy in a romantic relationship?

    Is it a negative thing, a positive thing?

    Is it an indication of faltering self esteem or insecurity?

    Does it show they truly care about you?

    Does it show that they don't trust you to be faithful?

    What does jealousy in a partner say to you?
    The cattle owner is concerned about the welfare of the cattle.
    Prior to slaughter.

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    Quote Originally Posted by wildcat View Post
    The cattle owner is concerned about the welfare of the cattle.
    Prior to slaughter.
    And my God is a jealous God.
    Prior to blood sacrifice.

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    jealousy is a sign of weakness

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