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    Quote Originally Posted by Morgan Le Fay View Post
    Nice.

    Yeah, god forbid your mate get jealous when you run off to South America for two weeks without telling him.


    All I said is it has nothing to do with love. Reading compression.

    And it's not ridiculous. Domestic violence is often a result of jealousy.
    Domestic violence is often a result of childhood exposure to repeated violence, mental illness, alcoholism, drug addiction, and/or personality disorder.

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    Quote Originally Posted by marmalade.sunrise View Post
    Yeah, god forbid your mate get jealous when you run off to South America for two weeks without telling him.
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    Domestic violence is often a result of childhood exposure to repeated violence, mental illness, alcoholism, drug addiction, and/or personality disorder.
    Indirectly, maybe.

    I evaluate the desirability of an emotion by its consequences. I've never known jealousy to lead to anything good. I'm not saying it's unnatural. But not everything that is natural is desirable.
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    I'm skeptical that love without jealousy even exists. Regardless of whether or not the element of jealousy is good or bad, I doubt it can be love at all if the jealousy is not there. How apathetic.

    If true, it would happen that this would then give jealousy a secondary characteristic of being good, just because one would take it as an indication of love.
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    Quote Originally Posted by Morgan Le Fay View Post
    Yes. Jealousy is preemptive grief.
    When I read this I couldn't help but exclaim "yes!" out loud. What a good way to explain it. And I think this explanation also helps to demarcate the line between a little healthy/flirtatious jealousy and the unhealthy kind that actually disintegrates the bonds between two people.
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    Quote Originally Posted by Morgan Le Fay View Post
    :confused:
    I've read an entire, somewhat shocking thread written by the person you just said "nice" too...I find her standards for what or what should not make a person jealous almost sociopathically cold.

    Not calling her names, but in my view, that kind of behavior is just as sick and twisted as getting too jealous.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Lauren Ashley View Post
    There are many reasons why a person could become jealous, so I don't think you can say that it is always motivated by a love of self and has nothing to do with the other.
    When would jealousy reflect a concern for someone else over the self?
    There is a thinking stuff from which all things are made, and which, in its original state, permeates, penetrates, and fills the interspaces of the universe.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Charmed Justice View Post
    When would jealousy reflect a concern for someone else over the self?
    When would any emotion?
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    Quote Originally Posted by Magic Poriferan View Post
    I'm skeptical that love without jealousy even exists. Regardless of whether or not the element of jealousy is good or bad, I doubt it can be love at all if the jealousy is not there. How apathetic.
    Are you thinking only of romantic love? What about all the other kinds of love that exist? Is jealousy appropriate in every case? Is the absence of jealousy truly an indication of apathy then?

    If true, it would happen that this would then give jealousy a secondary characteristic of being good, just because one would take it as an indication of love.
    That's like saying pain is good because it's an indication that you're still alive. Maybe. But a pain-free existence >>> a painful one.
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    Quote Originally Posted by marmalade.sunrise View Post
    I've read an entire, somewhat shocking thread written by the person you just said "nice" too...I find her standards for what or what should not make a person jealous almost sociopathically cold.

    Not calling her names, but in my view, that kind of behavior is just as sick and twisted as getting too jealous.
    "sociopathically cold"? I'm guessing you got stuck with my ex?

    Seriously I'd rather not dredge up the issue (or thread), but I'm 20 and if I want to have fun, I've got a right. And so does the boyfriend. I'd even be fine with open relationships, if it weren't for my STD paranoia.
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    Quote Originally Posted by Morgan Le Fay View Post
    Are you thinking only of romantic love? What about all the other kinds of love that exist? Is jealousy appropriate in every case? Is the absence of jealousy truly an indication of apathy then?
    Love is a word that has so many meanings that there is a high risk of equivocation. I'm pretty sure that the topic here is about so-called romantic love. Love for family is different, and in fact very different, and perhaps people only assume it is as related as they do because we happen to use the same word for it.

    Quote Originally Posted by Morgan Le Fay View Post
    That's like saying pain is good because it's an indication that you're still alive. Maybe. But a pain-free existence >>> a painful one.
    A pain-free existence is also impossible, so the analogy works in that way, too.
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