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    Welcome to Sunnyside Array Mondo's Avatar
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    Default Life is fantastic! (Some advice)

    I've observed how much I've changed in the past year. I feel much happier now, enough that I think I can give some advice to those who are struggling to find happiness right now.
    I was in a rough patch once and almost dropped out of college.
    I relied on things outside of myself for happiness: alcohol and the approval/love of others.
    I made a lot of decisions I personally feel were dumb.
    Some of the people who I've been close to most of my life felt like they were losing me because I changed a lot but mostly in negative ways.
    I got out of a rough relationship and felt like that being myself was detrimental to my well-being, so I sought to change myself. I became very sensitive about my image and did everything I could to preserve its well-being.
    I feared abandonment so much that I did everything I could to avoid it.
    I thought I had the key to get everyone to like me but the one person who grew to despise me was myself which was the problem.

    Don't try to be something you're not. Don't try to do things so others like you. If you live life the way you want to live it, the people who matter will like you and you can forget the people who don't like you.

    Don't try to impress anyone- even if you do so by being fake, you won't really be happy because such illusions don't make you happy. Even if others believe in your image, deep down, you know that your image is imaginary.

    If someone out there is going through some of the problems I once went through, I'm here to let you know that you can improve things in your life. Things aren't hopeless. Everyone deserves to be happy,
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    Quote Originally Posted by Mondo View Post
    I'm here to let you know that you can improve things in your life.
    Totally true. While there are problems on your path to happyness/success caused by other people or by bad luck or circumstances, a few problems are caused - or made worse - by your own behaviour. And that's a thing you can change. The first thing you need to do is realize which behaviour of yours is getting in your way right now.

    You've done exactly that, Mondo, and congratulations! It isn't easy, I know. I'm still a "wannabe efficient NTP" and I've let myself down in that part already way too often. But I'm not giving up.
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    Yeah, I've got a comment to make on this topic. It's not how we handle the best of circumstance, it's how we approach the worst...that evenutally leads to our finest moments.

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    Well optimism is nice in some respects, but it also helps to be realistic about the issues/situations in your life and work from that starting point. Over the top optimism can cloud one's sense of self just as much as extreme pessimism.

    Glad to hear everything is going better though.
    “You have your way. I have my way. As for the right way, the correct way, and the only way, it does not exist.” -Nietzsche

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    Thanks for your post man, good advice for dealing with college or work or life, pretty much ;-)

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