My dad is an ISTJ, but somehow he thinks I'm absolutely similar to him. Well, when he does these loving but seemly unloving things he gets hysterical and starts yelling at me. That seems more like hateful to me. I don't understand why someone wouldn't want to get to know their children. In his case it would be more out of fear. I think he's afraid that I turn out to be completely different than him, but it's just the truth. Every time he sees a difference, he makes up excuses so these differences aren't valid anymore. He thinks I'll change and turn into him when I'm older anyway, which is not going to happen. We already used to be completely different types of children and completely different types of teenagers and so we'll probably also be totally different adults. My teachers all told me he probably would have this empty nest syndrome too, but I don't think it should be affecting me. I never asked to be an only child. Besides, we have a cat now, that cat is just like me, but then a little bit more violent.