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    Everyone's got their chains to break.

    What are yours?

    They can be a dependance on intimate relationships. Confidence issues. Lack of work ethic. Your parents. Abuse. Insecurity. Paranoia. Anxiety. Anything.

    What have you always struggled to break free of, if anything?

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    beating myself up. I've worked at overcoming the feeling I need to "earn" everything. There might be something saying I wouldn't deserve something until I could prove it to myself. Either I'm starting to feel like I've satisfied all my dues or I'm finally getting past this barrier.

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    Expecting perfection of myself (always being the smartest, kindest, most sensitive, most perceptive, never acting out of anger, etc.) and then feeling ashamed of myself for not being that or not even wanting to be that any longer.

    Also, not wanting other people to think poorly of me, whether fair or unfair.
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    Quote Originally Posted by Mempy View Post
    Everyone's got their chains to break.

    What are yours?

    They can be a dependence on intimate relationships. Confidence issues. Lack of work ethic. Your parents. Abuse. Insecurity. Paranoia. Anxiety. Anything.

    What have you always struggled to break free of, if anything?
    I avoid my responsibilities by spending time on the computer. I should get up and tackle several months worth of work. I don't because it feels like it never ends. I feel like Cinderella slaving away all the time. Meanwhile, what I have done gets un-done as soon as my family walks in the door at the end of the day. It's a never-ending hamster wheel.

    I have to learn to balance my life between work and relaxation. I have learned that if I set a timer, and I can stop working when the timer rings, I am more likely to be willing to expend the physical energy required.

    It's the biggest struggle of my life. The big-picture is overwhelming. It paralyzes me.

    I experienced some pretty good success last spring when I committed to clean the basement 4 days a week, 2 hours a day. It's not done yet. I took notes on the things I was learning - the way my thinking was changing and adjusting. I just have to re-commit to the project.

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    Fear of failure and rejection (one that is so strong I find it hard to make meaningful and intimate relationships)

    anxiety

    Procrastination and an inconsistency in motivation

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    Quote Originally Posted by INTJMom View Post
    I avoid my responsibilities by spending time on the computer. I should get up and tackle several months worth of work. I don't because it feels like it never ends. I feel like Cinderella slaving away all the time. Meanwhile, what I have done gets un-done as soon as my family walks in the door at the end of the day. It's a never-ending hamster wheel.

    I have to learn to balance my life between work and relaxation. I have learned that if I set a timer, and I can stop working when the timer rings, I am more likely to be willing to expend the physical energy required.

    It's the biggest struggle of my life. The big-picture is overwhelming. It paralyzes me.

    I experienced some pretty good success last spring when I committed to clean the basement 4 days a week, 2 hours a day. It's not done yet. I took notes on the things I was learning - the way my thinking was changing and adjusting. I just have to re-commit to the project.
    I totally understand. I know what I have to do, but starting them is my biggest obstacle.
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    Quote Originally Posted by Mempy View Post
    Everyone's got their chains to break.

    What are yours?

    They can be a dependance on intimate relationships. Confidence issues. Lack of work ethic. Your parents. Abuse. Insecurity. Paranoia. Anxiety. Anything.

    What have you always struggled to break free of, if anything?
    Mine is a biggie - procrastination
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    Apathy... almost everything I have attempted I have been very good at, for me the delimiting factor has been deciding what I want to do and motivating myself to get started on it.

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    I need to start taking life seriously! my defense against things has always been to laugh and make it into a joke- which, while fun, probably isn't the best approach
    “Oh, we're always alright. You remember that. We happen to other people.” -Terry Pratchett

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    I need to find a way to unchain my mind. I can't say I feel intelligent enough at any given moment - I feel that there's something holding me back. There's also so much that I don't know.

    And yeah, I get much procrastination done.
    Not really.

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