I think the real you is an integrated whole.
This is interesting because, if we are lucky, we are constantly changing. So the problem becomes, how can integrate constant change into the whole?
I think part of the solution is to develop a taste for change, for the new. And then develop a taste for integrating changes into one another.
It's a bit like developing an appetite for change and integration.
It seems to me to be the opposite of a linear, sequential teleology.
Unfortunately literacy has taught us to look for ends and means, to look for end results and the means to get there.
Fortunately the electronic media are teaching us there are no ends and means, but simply a never ending conversation that grows richer and deeper and more complex, quite like our conversation here.
The electronic media are teaching us that we are like the double helix, underpinning all life. We have no goal, it's that we become richer and more complex as we evolve, if we're lucky.