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    ^He pronks, too! Magic Poriferan's Avatar
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    Quote Originally Posted by Haphazard View Post
    I'm never allowed to be dependent on anyone for any period of time. Got it. Just like Dad said, that's why he sent me to therapy.
    That's hardly what I said...

    I'm saying you don't have to have it for this situation. And I'll add that it could be good for you to take control of this yourself.

    That also doesn't exclude personal support. It's not boolean. You aren't either depending on people or dealing with things yourself.
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    Quote Originally Posted by Haphazard View Post
    I'm never allowed to be dependent on anyone for any period of time. Got it. Just like Dad said, that's why he sent me to therapy.
    That's wrong. You should have a support system. Everyone should have someone to lean on. But if you don't, or don't think that you do, then you need to be able to rely on yourself. And when you can learn to completely rely on yourself, it can help you a lot. So that later, when you do have lots of friends, a great life, and support, it's almost like an added benefit. If you have nothing but yourself right now, than you have to utilize that the best way possible.
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    Quote Originally Posted by shortnsweet View Post
    That's wrong. You should have a support system. Everyone should have someone to lean on. But if you don't, or don't think that you do, then you need to be able to rely on yourself. And when you can learn to completely rely on yourself, it can help you a lot. So that later, when you do have lots of friends, a great life, and support, it's almost like an added benefit. If you have nothing but yourself right now, than you have to utilize that the best way possible.
    Because I need to be able to stitch up my own wounds. Got it.
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    Quote Originally Posted by Haphazard View Post
    Because I need to be able to stitch up my own wounds. Got it.
    I don't know if that was sarcasm or not. But essentially, yes.

    For me, as a teenager I did have an okay amount of support. (My mother was not around because she had to work all the time, no money. No father. No siblings.) But I did have a lot of friends around. For whatever reason, I didn't trust anyone to take care of me, and kept to myself a lot about my feelings and problems and anxiety. And hated therapists and still do. But the fact that I was really independent can overcame all of my problems on my own was extremely beneficial into adulthood. Because now whatever happens, I know that I have the resources to handle just about everything.

    To me, it wasn't the healthiest view to have, but the problem solving skills I learned in the process are extremely helpful.

    Right now, you may feel like you really need the support of your family and others. But for whatever reason, you don't. And that's reality. (I'm not sure what brought you to this reality) but it is what it is, and if you can't change that right now, you can only change yourself and help yourself.
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    Quote Originally Posted by Haphazard View Post
    Because I need to be able to stitch up my own wounds. Got it.
    Now you're being stubborn and shutting down.

    You have limited options, Hap. Are you going to take any of them? Or are you going to stick with this? But you said you don't know how much more of this you can take.

    You have to do something. It would preferably the action that addresses the situation the most while doing the least harm. I've been trying to present options like that to you.
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    We're not trying to parent or boss you, or tell you that you should just suck it up and deal with it on your own. We can see that you are hurting bad, and just really want support, and we're trying to help the best way we know how.
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    There's no one I can trust to help clean me when I get too sick to do it. Physically, no one to give my hand a squeeze when it needs one. The most basic things I am the only one who can do them.

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    I should be able to hold my own damn hand. To ask for anyone is weak, and to ask will make them refuse because it is a sign of weakness, and nobody can stand a weakling.
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    Quote Originally Posted by Haphazard View Post
    It doesn't really matter if it's low risk if I'm in the bathroom taking gauze out when I faint and hit my head on the sink, and nobody cares because nobody cares, and then I'm laying there while my concussion forms.
    Blood phobia (haemophobia) is one of the most likely phobias to actually cause physical reactions, such as fainting. If your family is aware of this, do they not offer you the support you need?

    Hap, I realize you are young, but you are not helpless. I am not sure how to help you best, but I offer you my support, and I wouldn't worry about this until you actually know you have to have them out.

    In the meantime, is there anything I can help with? Just send a PM.
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    Vulnerability is no shame. The shame is refusing to ask for any help. You are learning what I have been trying to reconstruct the last five years, the value placements are disproportionate, the distrust amplifies across the board and taints judgments and perceptions alike, creating limiting beliefs that would be best discarded. However having said that, taking care of your health is primary. without a proper functioning ability to cognition thoughts and emotions are clouded, especially when your role models are so poor.

    I would tend to agree that when wisdom teeth are causing issue they should be removed. If its other things then those things would be good to address. Life is a learning curve at the best of times.

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