How can one tell the difference when you are showing deeper personal connections vs. lighter social exchanges? Sometimes people who have a habit of being pleasant can attempt to express something meaningful only to be dismissed as "being nice". How do you differentiate the two approaches to people?
For myself I can see a few ways that line can be blurred externally, but inside my mind the difference is clear. Sometimes it is depressing to think you are dismissed for something important you attempted to say. It bothers me to think that I can show similar acts that mean different things. One reason for this is a desire not to pressure the person receiving the compliment/gift. When I feel a deeper connection I'm actually holding back. I want to say that when I create something for someone, there is a meaningful connection, but that actually isn't always the case. There have been a few times someone was a source of inspiration, but experienced in a distant manner. I want to say that if I bother to seek the person out that it is telling, but I will seek out new, random people at times to give them a pick-me-up. Any of these things are done with meaning, but not necessarily with an "inner-circle" connection. I suppose for me the most telling expression has to do with consistency - of seeking the person out, making myself available to them, creating something inspired by them, on a more ongoing basis. I probably make myself a bit more vulnerable to an "inner circle" person as well. Actually that part about making myself available for them to communicate with me is pretty telling.
Anyway, how does it work for you?