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    Default Tips on accepting yourself/Gaining confidence?

    Hey; I'm here to just talking about this.

    Does anybody have any tips on accepting/liking yourself? I sometimes have those issues, but then again I'm a teenager !

    'Cause currently I have issues with my appearance (I don't want to seem like a sad-case, but I think I am. I keep downgrading myself, and I'm ugly, I can tell you that ; and don't tell me any of that 'I'm sure you ain't!). I'm trying to be my usual self, but my friends aren't here to distract me. All studying...

    It was just that one day a girl came up to me and said I was ugly. And looked weird. I didn't know her, but it really did cut me deep. I'm a sensitive person you know, even if I'm always smiling and optimistic D:!

    Anyways enough whining and attention getting. I'm trying to conduct some sort of essay/conclusion on this topic. Contributions please? I've posted this on other forums as well, so I just wanted to hear your thoughts.

    Okay here comes the general guideline!

    1) What do you think are your strengths/weaknesses

    2) Was there anyone there who were supportive? Or did you do it alone?

    3) Did the people around you affect your views? Or was it more you affected it yourself?

    4)How did you improve on(or deprive of)these thoughts/ideas? Was there some special 'formula' involved?

    5)So in conclusion, what are the 'tips'?

    6)Other suggestions/ideas/values/morals/ethics/blah you want to add.

    7)I'm on a J mode, so give a bibliography!

    Thoughts?

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    Cognitive-behavioral therapy. Seriously, it helps a ton.

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    Quote Originally Posted by onemoretime View Post
    Cognitive-behavioral therapy. Seriously, it helps a ton.
    What is that?

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    Quote Originally Posted by Ming View Post
    What is that?
    It's a form of talk therapy where you dig into your emotional states, and your therapist gives you alternative ways of looking at the things that make you feel bad about yourself that aren't really that bad. Basically, it convinces you to not be so hard on yourself.

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    Let's see... I struggled a lot with confidence for a long time, and a lot of people would always point out good aspects of my personality or different things that I excelled at. It didn't matter. I would feel good for maybe 15 minutes, but then it would just sort of melt away. It took years and years for me to be able to start believing people. But I think it has to come from inside.

    One thing that I've found helps me with appearance is exercising... it helps me to feel like my body is for more than just attractiveness. It can do things. Really amazing things! It is a great mood-booster in general, actually, because of the endorphins that your body releases as you work out.

    Something I've thought about trying is compiling a list of positive characteristics (maybe from other people or ones I've generated). I can't remember if I've done it before or not, but it can't hurt.

    I guess my last advice is patience. It is (or at least was, for me) a long, slow process.

    Hang in there, little buddy.
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    Just learn how to not give a fuck.

    I'd give you more advice.... but I don't give a fuck.

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    Quote Originally Posted by ajblaise View Post
    Just learn how to not give a fuck.

    I'd give you more advice.... but I don't give a fuck.
    Don't think that works for ESFPs. Great for us, but for them...not so much.



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    Quote Originally Posted by JocktheMotie View Post
    Don't think that works for ESFPs. Great for us, but for them...not so much.
    All ExxPs have the not-give-a-fuck capacity in them though.... maybe it would work for a bitter ESFP, but I've never seen one.

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