Hi Ming, I'll just answer the questions, okay?
Weaknesses: lots of imagination, not really healthy (I'm okay, don't worry! Just weaker than average. If you choose a sports team, just choose me last.), naive
There were lots of persons which affected me both positively and negatively. Only with hindsight I'm able to recognize them. There were my ever supportive parents and sister; some good teachers, a few friends.2) Was there anyone there who were supportive? Or did you do it alone?
There was also a spiritually inspired summer camp where I was the outsider, the talk about feelings and love, the trials and tribulations of fashion, the well-meant attempts at making me put reality before imagination. Well if reality was a bit better I wouldn't have too flee it, would I?
Sure. Like every adolescent, I measured my worth in popularity. I discovered quite soon that whenever I became good at something, that something switched from the cool to the dork side. And then I decided that if I was unpopular anyway, I could as well listen to classical music, not follow the good TV shows and read bad books instead,...3) Did the people around you affect your views? Or was it more you affected it yourself?
Teachers liked me, somehow...
I'll tell a little story.4)How did you improve on(or deprive of)these thoughts/ideas? Was there some special 'formula' involved?
There was once a ball for the people who finished high school. Almost nobody dared to dance for fear of being laughed at. The exceptions were the ones who could dance. Among the crowd, there was a girl clothed in the fashion her ten year older sister wore to her ball. She suddenly realised: "Maybe the only difference between the dancing people and the watching ones is that the dancing dare it. I'll try. What if they laugh? I'm used to it anyway, and in the meantime I'll just have fun!"
So she got in the middle of the dance floor and had a load of fun.
Reaction? "That's amazing, Tamske, I didn't know you could dance!"
Dance anyway. You're not the only one setting up a facade. You're not the only one getting hurt. Most people hide their problems, their fears of being left behind, their worries about not fitting in. I bet there are even people jealous of your life, because they only see you being fine!5)So in conclusion, what are the 'tips'?
A change of environment can doing wonders, too, but you should work to it too. The interaction in my high school was struck in a pattern that we couldn't leave even while we all matured. When I went to university, suddenly it was cool to be good at physics. It took me half a year to really realize that, despite the obvious fact that I was among people who chose to study physics...
No, not really...6)Other suggestions/ideas/values/morals/ethics/blah you want to add.
The Secret Garden, F.H. Burnett7)I'm on a J mode, so give a bibliography!
A wrinkle in time, M. L'Engle
All of Anthony Horowitz
All of Paul Biegel
The Narnia Chronicles, C.S. Lewis
Yes, that's all fiction, and nothing romance. I've found out fiction has helped me way more than "talking about feelings".
(but then again I'm not a F )