"How dreadful!" cried Lord Henry. "I can stand brute force, but brute reason is quite unbearable. There is something unfair about its use. It is hitting below the intellect." ~ Oscar Wilde - The picture of Dorian Gray
1) What do you think are your strengths/weaknesses- My strengths are who I am, my weaknesses, who I think I am and when I doubt myself
2) Was there anyone there who were supportive? Or did you do it alone?-- At different times, I had different people. I grew up in what other people consider an abusive situation. People call my mom a whore, and say that she hit me too often to be considered a good parent-- but I don't believe that and I love her. I know, though, that my life showed me that love can be cruel, and even it isn't love leaving you, love has a larger capacity than anything to hurt you. Never open your heart too easily, but please, please never close it off too much. I don't believe in the don't give a fuck approach-- just don't give too much of a fuck. Remember always that people will be unkind, but people who don't appreciate you for who you are aren't worth your worry.
3) Did the people around you affect your views? Or was it more you affected it yourself?--
Both. I had my views, people told me they were wrong or silly, and that was discouraging, but I still honestly believed in them. It's important to trust who you are and not let other people trample on that. What's important is that no one will ever know you as well as you know you. You need to know that you are a beautiful person inside and out before you can convince anyone of it. Some people will know, and that will always help, but as you grow and their support makes you stronger, the amount of people who try to bring you down will decrease. If they try to change you in any way, it can often mean that they are not secure in their own views and want to convince you so that they can be reassured. (This excludes unhealthy people who use Fe or Te poorly to try and ram their feelings and thoughts down your throat. Note I say unhealthy-- normally I enjoy the healthy, well used forms of both.)
4)How did you improve on(or deprive of)these thoughts/ideas? Was there some special 'formula' involved?--
I found an outlet. I adore music, writing, and art. Doing these things can both release bad thoughts/feelings/ideas and help good ones flourish.
5)So in conclusion, what are the 'tips'?--
It's cliche but believe in yourself and be yourself. No one can ever tell you you go about being yourself wrong, so find yourself and be it. You'll feel great.
6)Other suggestions/ideas/values/morals/ethics/blah you want to add.--
Just be a good person- your pleasure should never be derived from other people's pain.
7)I'm on a J mode, so give a bibliography!--
I hope this sufficed ^.^
I would say standing up for what you believe in is a great way to gain self-respect. People will fuss and fight, not have your back, and run for cover under what is safe and familiar, but they come around once you're on top of your game. That is where you gain the confidence to do it again and again. You learn how things work. You learn that it is not going to kill you to lose the support of the lemmings, because the respect of one person with heart and integrity is incomparable.