User Tag List

First 12345 Last

Results 21 to 30 of 55

  1. #21
    ~*taaa raaa raaa boom*~ targobelle's Avatar
    Join Date
    Apr 2007
    MBTI
    enfp
    Posts
    2,585

    Default

    fear... such a loaded question, I live my whole life in fear so much fear but if I could eliminate one, just one maybe it would be the fear of succeeding..... odd I know....
    ~t ...in need of hugs please...
    Jung Test Results
    Extroverted (E) 63.16% Intuitive (N) 60.53% Feeling (F) 84.38% Perceiving (P) 87.1% ~Your type is: ENFP

  2. #22

    Default

    Quote Originally Posted by ThatsWhatHeSaid View Post
    You fear approaching them confidently?

    What do you think is at the bottom of that fear?
    I just reread what I wrote and I think it's unclear. Fear prevents me from approaching women confidently. I don't know what's at the bottom of it, I've been severely shy since I was a toddler.

  3. #23
    Senior Member ThatsWhatHeSaid's Avatar
    Join Date
    May 2007
    MBTI
    INTP
    Enneagram
    5w4
    Posts
    7,233

    Default

    Quote Originally Posted by FMWarner View Post
    I just reread what I wrote and I think it's unclear. Fear prevents me from approaching women confidently. I don't know what's at the bottom of it, I've been severely shy since I was a toddler.
    Yeah, I was just teasing. I've been shy for years too. I think it's a fear of rejection or of the pain and loss of ego that accompanies that rejection.

  4. #24
    ~dangerous curves ahead~
    Join Date
    Nov 2007
    MBTI
    ENTP
    Posts
    2,590

    Default

    Quote Originally Posted by ThatsWhatHeSaid View Post
    Yeah, I was just teasing. I've been shy for years too. I think it's a fear of rejection or of the pain and loss of ego that accompanies that rejection.
    you're shy?

  5. #25
    Senior Member ThatsWhatHeSaid's Avatar
    Join Date
    May 2007
    MBTI
    INTP
    Enneagram
    5w4
    Posts
    7,233

    Default

    Quote Originally Posted by aelan View Post
    you're shy?
    When I'm try too hard to manage my impression, I kinda cave in. It happens during interviews and on dates, and with old friends who I try too desperately to connect with. My mind goes nuts trying to solve/analyze/escape the self-consciousness and I have no more time to be myself freely.

  6. #26
    Obsession. Lethe's Avatar
    Join Date
    Aug 2007
    MBTI
    iNtJ
    Enneagram
    152 so/sx
    Socionics
    INTp Ni
    Posts
    801

    Default

    Fear of having no time to spare for my own interests & hobbies; of being overwhelmed with uninteresting work.

    It took me four years to figure out that I had this fear.

    If I could conquer this one, it would make the dealings with my ADD much easier.
    "I cannot expect even my own art to provide all of the answers -- only to hope it keeps asking the right questions." -- Grace Hartigan

    Enneagram: Tritype - 1w9, 5 (balanced wings), 2w3; Overall Variant: So/Sx
    SLOAN: rCoa|I|
    Functional Preferences: Ni, Te/Fi, Ti, Se, Fe, Si, Ne


    Quote Originally Posted by OneWithSoul View Post
    Looking into the eyes of a [Ni user] is like peeking through a portal into a parallel universe.

  7. #27
    Mamma said knock you out Mempy's Avatar
    Join Date
    Jul 2007
    Posts
    2,226

    Default

    Quote Originally Posted by ThatsWhatHeSaid View Post
    When I'm try too hard to manage my impression, I kinda cave in. It happens during interviews and on dates, and with old friends who I try too desperately to connect with. My mind goes nuts trying to solve/analyze/escape the self-consciousness and I have no more time to be myself freely.
    Nice post. I'm the same way! When I'm self-conscious, it's very hard to be spontaneous or be myself. I flounder in many of the same situations you described.

    I agree that fear of fear itself is probably my undoing. I psych myself out. I say, "I don't want that fear!" or I'm ashamed that I can't live up to the person I most want to be.

  8. #28
    To the top of the world arcticangel02's Avatar
    Join Date
    Oct 2007
    MBTI
    eNFP
    Posts
    892

    Default

    I would get rid of my fear of death. Sometimes it scares me soo bad.
    ANFP:
    Extraversion (52%) ---- Introversion (48%)
    Sensing (26%) ---- iNtuition (74%)
    Thinking (16%) ---- Feeling (84%)
    Judging (5%) ---- Perceiving (95%)

    9w1 so/sx/sp

  9. #29
    Senior Member substitute's Avatar
    Join Date
    May 2007
    MBTI
    ENTP
    Posts
    4,601

    Default

    I think most of my fears are pretty rational and I don't think any good purpose could be served by removing them. I'd like to master them, sure, but not remove them; they're for a reason.

    I guess the only irrational fear I have is claustrophobia, I have that pretty bad, and I'd like that one gone. I've battled with it as long as I can remember, from my childhood, and don't seem to really have gotten anywhere - in fact it's kinda got worse. People seem to have so little sympathy for it... when you're with a bunch of boy scouts who want to go caving, there's not usually much sympathy for someone who says they don't want to help out because being in the caves makes them feel like they're going to explode from panic or pass out from hyperventilation. Friends who want to take elevators also don't tend to understand why I'd REALLY rather take the stairs.
    Ils se d�merdent, les mecs: trop bon, trop con..................................MY BLOG!

    "When it all comes down to dust
    I will kill you if I must
    I will help you if I can" - Leonard Cohen

  10. #30
    ~dangerous curves ahead~
    Join Date
    Nov 2007
    MBTI
    ENTP
    Posts
    2,590

    Default

    Quote Originally Posted by ThatsWhatHeSaid View Post
    When I'm try too hard to manage my impression, I kinda cave in. It happens during interviews and on dates, and with old friends who I try too desperately to connect with. My mind goes nuts trying to solve/analyze/escape the self-consciousness and I have no more time to be myself freely.
    I guess I become self-conscious only when folks start pointing out things, repeatedly. Then I think about what they said, does it make sense. Drop my feelings about it and see how I look if I were staring at a stranger with my face and name. Distancing helps.

    If the critique makes sense, I take the feedback. If it does not fit into my life, I don't, afterall, they cannot live for me. But I remember what set of behaviour they like to see, and if I have to work with them next time, I behave accordingly. But I'm wary of overly critical people - sometimes they are brutally honest because they enjoy the brutality vs the honesty.

    Edit: Sub yea, I don't like tight spaces too. In aircrafts I always try get the aisle seat by leaning over and whispering conspiratorially to the counter staff that "I have bladder incontinence, I have to go every half hour, and I really don't want to disturb other passengers" *lol*. It works most times.

    Question, if you could trade your fear for another, which would that be, and why.

Similar Threads

  1. I'm amazed how no one seems to fear death
    By Such Irony in forum Philosophy and Spirituality
    Replies: 80
    Last Post: 01-29-2011, 04:26 AM
  2. One for the experts.
    By Xander in forum Myers-Briggs and Jungian Cognitive Functions
    Replies: 30
    Last Post: 07-03-2008, 05:29 PM
  3. One gadget you wish you had
    By rivercrow in forum The Bonfire
    Replies: 35
    Last Post: 06-19-2007, 04:15 PM
  4. Happiness, Children, and Are you that one girl?
    By Wolf in forum The Fluff Zone
    Replies: 66
    Last Post: 05-18-2007, 03:53 PM
  5. Which one of you is.....
    By targobelle in forum Welcomes and Introductions
    Replies: 3
    Last Post: 04-25-2007, 10:42 AM

Posting Permissions

  • You may not post new threads
  • You may not post replies
  • You may not post attachments
  • You may not edit your posts
Single Sign On provided by vBSSO