How do I make it stop?
I'm actually pretty good about not taking things personally in most scenarios. If trust has been established, then there is little that can be said or done to hurt me. Also, if the person's opinion is not relevant, if they aren't on my radar to build trust, then it also doesn't matter.
Okay, when it can matter? When there is someone I want to trust, someone I admire, but don't have a sense of their reciprocation. In that case my old instincts of assuming rejection peek their ugly little heads. This could be in part temperament, but it is moreso the result of environment. I experienced types of rejection that replay themselves in my mind. I also struggle with figuring out how to connect to the people I would like to connect to. I typically remain open to multiple possible explanations, but will emotionally prepare for the worst one. I want to reign this in, so that it is no longer a distraction. Have any of you successfully reigned in these particular negative thoughts? If so, what was your strategy?