So, I'm asking for other opinions on this seeing as Vent is going off in other directions. I was recently watching an episode of Joan of Arcadia in which the main character took a make up class, realized her and her friend in the class were becoming vain, called everyone else in the class vain, quit the class and wore the same clothes 2 days in a row in protest.
I just watched the show, and with her make up on, I was like, "fuck, she's hot." Who cares if it's make up? To me, wearing the same clothes for 2 days and not showering was taking the protest to the extreme. So, you dislike makeup, quit the class and go back to being normal. Screw the protest. I mean, relying on the makeup for confidence, yeah, that's messed up.
Vanity is defined as excessive concern, but excessive is relative, defined by boundaries that it seeks to upset. I'm just missing some of the reasoning on how some people use the wrong situations as examples of vanity. Going over the above example a few times, I can understand how it changed the main character for the duration of the episode, but I'm looking for further discussion.