By the first, I merely meant that you accept others on their own terms, or reject them on ours, simply. It goes beyond keeping silent in that sense, and is more than an aura, to me at least.
* If by the second you mean the inability to make a decision, then it's not really a good thing. For e.g. in an abusive relationship. Retaliation could be the judgement. Or walking away could be the better judgement, isn't it?
Choosing to live with the abuse - is that judgement or a lack thereof? There comes a point when we do have to choose, isn't it. And if it is not judgement that makes that choice, I'm not certain what?