I was having a conversation with someone I know a while ago about the fact that while I was growing up in Canada, I ended up going to a lot of funerals. This was largely because my family knew a lot of elderly to extremely elderly people (we lived in a retirement town), but I mentioned that tragically some of these funerals were for people whose death was very premature – and even for a couple of suicides.
When I mentioned the suicides, this person’s reaction was “How did they do it?”, seeming quite curious to know the answer.
The more I think about it, the more I find this reaction weird to the point of being a bit disturbing. (I said something like “oh, I don’t want to get into that” and changed the subject, I think.) This person can be a bit flippant with morbid humour etc, but wouldn’t most people say something like “how tragic” or “that’s really sad”? There was none of that.
I wasn’t telling the story to get pity or anything for all the funerals I had to go to…it was more just factual. Come to think of it, a mutual acquaintance of ours died (elderly, but not ancient) and we exchanged a couple of texts about this. I said “I can’t go to the funeral because I’m working during the week – honestly, I feel anyway like I’ve been to enough funerals for a lifetime.” Their response was “Yeah, funerals are pretty boring.” Again I thought this was odd. My response was something like “well, I’m thinking more about ‘sad’ than ‘boring’”, which I don’t think garnered much of a response.
Weird/disturbing? Or just me over-sensitive?