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  • INFP- Yes definitely

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  • INTP- Yes definitely

    3 11.11%
  • ISFP- Yes definitely

    0 0%
  • ISTP- Yes definitely

    0 0%
  • ENFP- Yes definitely

    4 14.81%
  • ENTP- Yes definitely

    3 11.11%
  • ESFP- Yes definitely

    1 3.70%
  • ESTP- Yes definitely

    1 3.70%
  • INFJ- Yes definitely

    0 0%
  • INTJ- Yes definitely

    3 11.11%
  • ISFJ- Yes definitely

    0 0%
  • ISTJ- Yes definitely

    0 0%
  • ENFJ- Yes definitely

    1 3.70%
  • ENTJ- Yes definitely

    5 18.52%
  • ESFJ- Yes definitely

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  • ESTJ- Yes definitely

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    Quote Originally Posted by highlander29 View Post
    Um... to some extent, I do it for a living. I try not to be pushy however. I have never had someone say it was bad.

    Good question though. This thread is making me think twice as to whether or not I should reconsider the approach in certain circumstances.
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    I used to love giving unsolicited advice before, say, the age of thirty when I realized how blunt I was. Now I'm much more discreet. Most people are sensitive about revealing too much about their problems to me. That's because I want to know way more about them than they want to tell me. These days I keep to myself and figure if it's it meant to be it will be.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Shaunward View Post
    Because they're terrible planners and/or they're emotional to the point of being unable to piece things together logically. Also, I might have insight that they're not aware of that helps them piece together the big picture.
    ok, acceptable answer.

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    I love giving ideas, asking thought provoking questions, and trying to solve problems. Sometimes that looks a lot like advice, but it doesn't really feel like it to me. I like to watch minds expand a lot more than I like to watch people do what I say in order to achieve positive results.
    "When a resolute young fellow steps up the great bully, the world, and takes him boldly by the beard, he is often surprised to find that it comes off in his hand, and that it was only tied on to scare away the timid adventurers." - Ralph Waldo Emerson

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    I LOVE GIVING ADVICE!!!!!



    I wish people asked me for advice more often...
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    What I particularly like to do:
    - Reframe situations.
    - Offer possibilities.
    - Offer pertinent insight.
    - Empower and equip.

    I love the a-ha moment I see sometimes in other people's eyes, that gives me a rush to see them seeing something new and seeing new pathways open under their feet, ripe for exploration. I even will tell them what i might do in the same situation and why.

    ... but the one thing I will not do is make their decisions for them.
    I can't stand those just looking for me to tell them what to do.

    I'd rather not tell them anything at that point.
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    Quote Originally Posted by Avis View Post
    I don't like to give unsolicited advice, but only if I'm asked for. Apart from that, most of my advice is usually little more than pointing out the alternatives without offering my own opinion (because often I just have none). I guess I'm actually not that helpful


    I will help point out possibilities if asked to do so, and I enjoy helping people in that way. You could call this "steering someone in a general direction", but so that they find their own answer. Sometimes I give very specific advice, but then it especially has to be asked for....even still, my specific advice is usually a concept on how to approach a problem, one which the individuals can adjust for themselves.
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    I like to give advice, yes, but only to people who ask for it, and if I think I know what I'm talking about.

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    No, I don't like giving advice. That doesn't stop me from giving it though. I really should know better.

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    You know, I'd really stop making threads like this if I were you.
    If you could be anything you want, I bet you'd be disappointed--am I right?

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