I don't see any pattern in my life relating the OP's conjecture.
I don't have a problem with ENTPs IRL. My dad is one, and while we are not close, we have never really argued. Outside of this messageboard, I've only met one who was abrasive and obnoxious. Most just seem silly & laid back.
I've had many INTP guy friends, and we tend to click quickly. Sometimes they are too argumentative and I am too sensitive, but if each of us mitigates those tendencies, then it's a very natural friendship.
I love ENFJs to death. I die over them!!! My best guy friends are ENFJ and I love them to bits. It feels like our minds are extensions of each other's - Fe & Fi feel very complementary there.
INTJs tend to leave me cold. I feel like they miss the point half the time & just nitpick. Being misunderstood & nitpicked are two of my biggest irritations, and I don't even feel like they try to understand me. The ESTJs and their Te is something I steer clear of. Strangely, I rather like some ISTJs, but they have to be a certain "kind". I don't know many ENTJs IRL, but the ones here don't bother me.