I don't want to derail the http://www.typologycentral.com/forum...d-privacy.html thread, but I'm wondering what do people consider private and secret information? Here are some categories but feel free to add more:
Messy personal relationships?
Quality of significant relationships?
Illnesses (psychological and physical)
Your sex life?
Your financial/socioeconomic status?
Your religious beliefs?
Your political beliefs?
When having casual and informal conversation, I would like to have specific and concrete examples of what people would consider general information that they'd have no problem talking with others about, what they would consider private, and what your dividing line is between what is public and private. I'm defining casual as being in the company of people you've chosen to (not forced to) be around even if you don't know them very well. For example, would you casually mention how many sex partners you've had, if you've attempted suicide, that you've had an abortion, that you have an STD, how much money you make, your political/religious beliefs, or what your favorite movie is?
I think a lot of interpersonal communication misfires occur when someone gets too personal too fast, or when someone perceives the other person isn't opening up to them as quickly as they think they should. Basic boundary violations or when there's a feeling an unnecessary boundary is there. I've had people in (unsolicited) explicit detail give me the rundown of what they do sexually with their SO; positions, sounds, noises, smells, liquids and whatnot, but if I ask who they vote for they get indignant, sputtering, and offended so I'm curious what the general sentiment is.
Also, is time a factor in casually revealing what you consider private information to people, i.e. you still don't know them very well but you've been around them several times?