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    Experience has given me my confidence.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Tiltyred View Post
    Experience has given me my confidence.
    Really? I feel like the older I get and the more that happens, the less confident I get..
    06/13 10:51:03 five sounds: you!!!
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    06/13 10:51:12 shortnsweet: go do your things and my things too!
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    Quote Originally Posted by Sytpg View Post
    It also helps you understood the color you chose is the right one, irrespective of what other people might tell you.
    Ah I understand.

    Its not about blowing off other people's opinions, it is about allowing yourself to be comfortable with your preferences and choices.

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    Find something you enjoy intrinsically and continue to improve; you may never be the best, but you will feel like you've accomplished something and improved yourself. Confidence and personal accomplishment are very intimately connected and are things you can look back on during a hard day. Relationships and people's opinions of you may, and mostly will, change constantly. It's much healthier to develop a loving and confident relationship with yourself.
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    The standard of appearance to date has given me the confidence I wanted. Otherwise, generally, I am confident about my life.

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    You can write down all the compliments you've received from people you respect; friends, teachers, mentors, parents...
    You can write your own obituary. I know it sounds weird, but how would people describe you at your funeral? I did this, and it made me feel better for a little while. It helps to remember that you are loved for who you are.

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    I find confidence is often tied to perspective and expectation. For some people, looking at things from a good perspective is just innate. Honestly, telling myself all of the good things about myself/my life feels fake, forced, and does not work for me. I have to be looking at whatever I aim to be confident at at a certain angle and hold no fragile expectations.

    I would sometimes describe confidence as somewhat of a feeling of mania or throwing a punch at something without inhibition but with knowledge. The knowledge being that failure cannot affect you negatively unless you let it.

    Pretty easy to say, quite often hard to do.

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    Quote Originally Posted by shortnsweet View Post
    How do you get it? Mine is often dependant on the opinions of others. I'm not extremely unconfident without those opinions, but I wish to be able to build some on my own. I'm not really interested in people saying, "who cares what others think?". Since duh, that's the most obvious remark. I'm more interested in some practical things that may have helped you guys in the past.
    Worry yourself half to death over how perfect you have to be to please everyone, and at some point you'll realize the closest to perfect is just be you.
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    Quote Originally Posted by Bubbleboy View Post
    Worry yourself half to death over how perfect you have to be to please everyone, and at some point you'll realize the closest to perfect is just be you.
    yes.
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    i think i derive a lot of confidence by the fact that i've been through some difficult situations and i always get through it and feel i always will...whatever it may be and regarding social situations...if i'm myself and acting in a way that feels right to me then i'm doing my part...people pick up on sincerity and appreciate it...and if i just don't click with someone i don't feel that it's necessarily because of me...it's okay if two people don't gel well. that's just life...and i'm okay with it.
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