DiscoBiscuit
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I don't know much about all the psychology stuff to be honest with you.
The only real currency is the time we have left on this Earth.
What matters is who we give this time to, and how we choose to spend it.
I'd say that attention is the core currency of the individual.
I'd say that attention is the core currency of the individual.
I'd say that attention is the core currency of the individual.
The currency varies from one individual to the next, as the currencies vary from nation to nation.
Time, for me at least, is more important than attention.
Time = how much I can get done (whether this be working, loving, or living) and thereby render my life meaningful
Attention = something less than what I just described above
Attention, for me at least, is more important than time.
Attention = how much I can give my attention to (whether this be working, loving, or living) and thereby render my life meaningful
Time is the base resource but can't be levered.
The fact that it can't be levered is what makes it more valuable.
The fact that it marches on the same as always, means (in the words of one of my very favorite actors) that, "you either get busy living, or get busy dieing".
The fact that time is not under our control is the reason we cherish the attention we give to others as much as we do.
Yeah, I guess so.
But I'm usually thought of as irrelevant because I'm not very accomplished and don't stand out, to the point that I feel too insignificant to take up anyone else's time.
It's why I prefer e-mail and such to the phone... the phone says, "I'm important enough to demand your attention NOW," while e-mail says "Pay attention to this if you have time."
If that's the case, then why do people care so much about achievements? Why are they impressed by them? It seems that people must believe they bestow value on some level...
I could definitely do proofreading, with a bit of study. I can't write anything original like an author can, but I can write things such an analysis or an essay. I'm more like an editor than a writer at heart.
It's why I prefer e-mail and such to the phone... the phone says, "I'm important enough to demand your attention NOW," while e-mail says "Pay attention to this if you have time."
Or it can mean: "I've decided to greet you with some of my time/attention, so feel special" which is mostly what people have in mind when they call to say hello to relatives/loved ones. Here the loved part sets the mindset.
All just mental constructs. Just a pair of lenses that may or may not coincide with someone else's, depending on it's origins/influenties [enter personality type, education, social influence, etc], that hardly ever matches the true colors of reality.
Time, for me at least, is more important than attention.
Time = how much I can get done (whether this be working, loving, or living) and thereby render my life meaningful
Attention = something less than what I just described above
If that's the case, then why do people care so much about achievements? Why are they impressed by them? It seems that people must believe they bestow value on some level...
Me neither. My mom's been trying to help me think positively again, too, but she's stuck in a dead-end job that she feels like she only got by lying, terrified of losing it, and doesn't know how to help me. She said she mostly got it because she literally drove her car everywhere, went into any store she could find, and basically begged everyone for work (mostly because she had to take care of me)... and eventually found a temp agency that sent her to a company that decided to hire her. She's worked there for the last 10+ years, at least. She's never gotten more than a 3 cent raise, and never gotten a promotion.
She doesn't even think she could find another job if she lost hers... so she's struggling to advise me.