Neil Diamond is relaxed.
Legs wide stance (look at the bottom of the photo) with arms crossed on front.
The arms crossed does not indicate the stereotypical "defensiveness" in this case,
but rather indicates an authoritative type of person, overall.
He's leaning slightly forward, which indicates the intent to engage you.
The girl has something going on with her left hand. It almost appears clinched.
She may be smiling, but there's something amiss. Her posture is stiff and forced.
Looks like someone stuck a steel rod up her back.
Despite the fact I can't see it, I have no doubt she has her legs very close together.
An uncomfortable stance, overall.
Just press the subtitles button on the remote control of life. It will translate all foreign languages into the one you understand best, and the translations will conveniently appear right above people's heads. You can even change the font size!
Does it also show the name and the Facebook profile of the person? If so, I am SO buying it!
And why not follow on and read someone's body language rather than relate to them as another person.
Reading body language has nothing to do with manipulation, it actually is a way of relating to another person better.
Originally Posted by Victor
So if we focus on body language or tone of voice, we are unable to focus on what we are doing.
And we come across as awkward 'cause we are.
But it is far worse than mere awkwardness. Those who focus on body language, or tone of voice, or type, are trying to pull a cheap trick.
Sure, cause a person can only focus on one thing at a time, there is no human being capable of listening and looking at the same time, or talking and walking for that matter. And how could anyone even imagine doing three things simultaneously?!
To the OP: yes, definitely just pay more attention, watch people. I'm pretty sure that after a while you will notice and understand more than you used to. If your goal for now is to understand whether a person is interested in the conversation with you or not, just focus on their face and maybe hands.
If they like what you're saying they will look you in the eyes (for the most part) and maybe even nod ever so slightly.
Watch their eyes, their eyebrows and forehead, their mouth. The most important thing is to see the expressions, cause some people are oblivious to that, when you are able to see it, you will be able to learn how to interpret it right over time.
A good way to understand the expression is to try and imitate it and think in what situation would you make such face, what emotions would cause it.