As an INTP female I find that dealing with other females can be quite challenging for me. Many of them are attracted to my calm nature, which seems to put the average "crazy", "unhinged" woman at ease. However, I often find it quite baffling when females treat their friendships like smothering marriages.
Friendships have advantages over marriages in that you have the luxury of having more than one friend, you don't have to be under each other's asses 24/7 and you don't have to try to be one person's everything. But females, especially groups of them, that have no love life of their own tend to get jealous, possessive and try to make their friendships make up for the other lacks in their lives.
I am always the first friend to listen, offer great advice, give someone a ride, or money if I have it. I will do most anything for a friend in need, but I find women too damned needy. Most women love to be needed a lot, but as an INTP female I find it to be quite exhausting.
I have always had a boyfriend/husband. I have never not been in a relationship, because men really appreciate the fact that I please them intensely and leave them the hell alone, so they can breathe. However, this does not work with women! They are NEVER satisfied no matter how good of a friend you are and always complaining about stuff they create themselves.
I am NOT at all mean, but I can be indifferent or aloof when I try make friends with a female only to get so damn vibed out by her complex ways. I thought this would change when I got older, because I actually thought women got happier and more comfortable with themselves as they aged. Boy! I am 40 and the women are getting crazier.
I am NEVER jealous of a woman, nor do I wish her harm or want to sleep with her man or expect her to meet unrealistic expectations. I have very close friends who have other friends and I like it like that, because it helps me out. I do not get upset if my best friend ask one of her friends to do something with her or if I find out that my friend may have told one of her friends something before she told me. Maybe, she just hadn't gotten around to it. I want a friend like that!
But noooo, at 40 women still get angry if they are in a group and one woman gets more attention then they do, or if a couple of the women happen to be talking to eachother more than anyone else in the group-then the ladies are accused of talking about someone. Women are jealous of the other women that have successful relationships, jobs, nice clothes...The reality shows have made a complete living off of the insecurities of women.
It is very embarrassing and my dream would be to see women tone down the crazy and just be cool. Life is too short to act this way.
I truly feel sorry for men sometimes. You guys actually have to subject yourselves to this misery just to get laid.
Are their any other INTP females that have this same problem?
I am interested in meeting as many INTP females as possible. I have found that indeed we are rare and if I could get us all in one place to chat about our interesting personality it would be great!
Facebook has an INTP female group. Join and let's see what happens.