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    Quote Originally Posted by Qre:us View Post
    However, unlike your bf, I'm not very socially uncomfortable, nor do I question where I fit. For me, it's more of how everything/one fits around me. In interactions, for me, I'm the focal point and from this point of reference, I see (work towards) how everything plays out.
    That was an interesting comment, in terms of potential introvert/extrovert differences.

    I bring out different aspects of myself, in order to target the group I'm interacting with.....I'm very 'go with the flow' in that regard.
    I do that as well, it's far easier for me to figure out which part of me works best in a particular environment and then play into that role, rather than just being the same person all the time and making others make room for me.

    That tends potentially to be an almost Fe vs Fi thing in terms of initial instincts, at least in terms of the social considerations.

    I had only one sibling, but she was six years behind me in school and different in personality so we did not interact that much. The family issues really disrupted normal social engagement. My alcoholic dad was also ESTP, the only extrovert in the family, and he was insensitive, loud, abrasive, and overbearing when he was around... there wasn't much for all the introverts to do but withdraw / avoid conflict because we could never get him to change his mind or approach things differently. Avoidance was easiest, but my second developed relational practice was compliance and/or figuring out what someone wanted and giving it to them, not making waves (no matter how I felt inside), because conflict could not be won and therefore needed to be avoided if I was to retain maximum autonomy.

    This was something I had to get over as an adult, realizing I had power in a negotiation and thus I could engage honestly and effectively rather than just in ways to reduce hostilities.

    Anyway, my sib and I really did not much impact each other's social dev, the situation with Dad was far overshadowing. I think only-children do get different dynamics from sib-dynamics, though, and even parental attitudes and attentions.
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    I have one sibling: an introvert sister (ISFJ, I'm pretty sure). I see many similarities between myself and her, mainly because of the dominant Si. But even our reactions to certain things are quite similar. I think the similarities have to do with our upbringing.

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    at home i was raised as an only child. i had a brother, but he was 15 years older than me. he moved out of the house when i was 2. he was as much of a father figure as a brother to me. i spent a fair amount of time with him, but it was never as much as i wanted.

    so we were not raised together, but i did have a great older brother while i was growing up. my relationship with my brother was incredible for me, i think that he was exactly what i needed in my life when i was a kid. he had been through a similar childhood as me, but he was older and able to give me a lot of direction and advice. advice from someone who had been in my position, but because he was my brother it was advice and direction that came from this very personal place. when i was 10 he was 25.
    i think that a lot of my success in life has been because my brother was around to put me on the right path when i was a kid.

    oh, i am an introvert, but a fairly outgoing and social introvert. but my brother was extremely extroverted and social. he was an ES-P i think.

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    Quote Originally Posted by brainheart View Post
    dad-I
    mom-E
    oldest sis- E
    oldest bro- E
    middle bro-E
    middle sis-E
    youngest bro- I
    me- I
    So many E's! I'd die.
    Just teasing. My whole family is E's.
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    Quote Originally Posted by Qre:us View Post
    I am an only child and a "funny" extravert too (not shy), but, in that, I can get very selfish about needing/wanting my solitude.

    When I was a kid, I felt lonely and really wanted siblings, and fabricated tales of having siblings.
    Wow, I wonder how many other only children did the bolded. I used to make up stories about my mother being pregnant when I was around 5ish.

    I'm pretty split on E/I. I can spend all day and night long with good friends without getting tired, but only in burst. After a couple of nights of going out or talking on the phone for hours, I will disappear from the scene for extended periods of time. I need to process many of my experiences by myself. I also just need time to be alone and read a book, or write, or just lay down and look at the ceiling and think. I love being by myself just as much as I love, and need, being with other people.
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    Quote Originally Posted by brainheart View Post
    dad-I
    mom-E
    oldest sis- E
    oldest bro- E
    middle bro-E
    middle sis-E
    youngest bro- I
    me- I
    Whoa, you have 5 brothers and sisters?

    Me too.

    Mine goes like this:

    Grandma (she lives with us): E
    Dad: I
    Mom: E
    Me: I
    Sister: E
    Brother: I
    Sister: e (lowercase...'cause I'm not sure)
    Sister: autistic...strongly introverted, though
    Brother: also autistic, but more extroverted

    Yeah. It's interesting how introverted/extroverted dynamics in my family don't really seem to matter in my family... It doesn't tire me out at all to hang out with them. I'm close to my family, so they're kind of an extension of me. And I'm not made to feel weird by the extroverts or anything (until you get out into the extended family...ugh).

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    I have two sibs. One brother is six years younger than me and the other is 21 years younger than me. I also had a step-brother a year younger than me that lived with us from the time I was three until our parents divorced when I was ten.

    I don't know whether the step-brother is introverted or extroverted. I just know he likes meth. My brother that is 6 years younger is an extrovert. The youngest probably leans more toward extroversion than introversion. I am fairly introverted. Our mom is extroverted and I think all of our dads and step-dads growing up have been introverts.
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    There is no way that I would ever be the person I am in the case that I have a sibling.

    (because of obvious reasons)

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    mom is an E, dad is an I, step dad was also an I. In order from me to our youngest sister it was three boys then two girls I, E, I, E, I. The girls are separated from the boys by a 5 year gap while the boys are two years a part each and so are the girls. The dynamic was quite interesting where almost no one really got the interaction or peace that they needed with only my step dad and sisters managing to work things out before adulthood. Us boys on the other hand had all kinds of trouble till the youngest boy turned 20.
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    Eh, my brother - older - is an 'E', a dick, and has stolen money on various occasions from family and myself.

    He might have contributed to my preference for solitude, but I don't know to what extent - he spent more of his teenage years in programs for "juveniles" than at home. He is a perfect example of how someone who is (technically, though not in practice) intelligent and who is given several chances to succeed and pursue whatever makes him happy can fuck it up royally, leeching money and time from us whilst giving back stress and bad times.

    Wanker.

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