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    My ISFP ex-fiance cut herself. She had borderline personality disorder (BPD), bulimia and an incredibly negative self-image. I believe self-harm is often associated with BPD, eating disorders and depression (so she kind of hit the trifecta). I always found the idea of harming oneself that way deeply disturbing, even though I've had to deal with depression at various points in my life. It does seem like a way to make emotional pain physical, and seems to provide a sense of control and relief to the individual.

    I would suggest that people who cut themselves seek out professional help. BPD, eating disorders and serious depression can all be debilitating and wreak havoc with both work and one's personal life (and likely one's health).

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    I cut myself when I was 13-15 I believe. I just know I didnt do it when I began high school. I was in a major pit of depression for those several years. Moving every year to a different school and being picked on by other students really peaked the desire. Being told that you're ugly and a freak at such an age is traumatic. Plus I didnt have a great parental support at that time. My mother had noticed that I was starting to act weird, so she started pushing me away. My dad was never really in the picture, he worked and still does all the time.
    So, cutting just became a thing I started to do. I did alot of other things at that point too, but cutting was my problem then.
    My parents ended up finding out because things got too extreme [i wont get into that].
    But yes, I had to go see a counselor every week for 5 months I believe. I hated it so much. Every piece of information I gave to the counselor was given to mother who in turn scolded me and made me believe I was a liar.

    So, its been 4 years since I last cut myself. It gets tempting once in a while, but I try to block it out because it caused alot of other problems for me.

    I think if you want to help someone who's cutting, just be a support and show them that you love and care about them. Take them out into the world and just BE there.
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    Self-mutilation is a whole other species of depression, it's masochism in its purest form.

    To be hurt by others is one thing, but to hurt yourself, well, that's a whole other bag of beans, beans that you can control, and understand.

    To hurt oneself is to find relief, feel a release, and discover a sort of fucked up redemption.

    Perhaps you'll only understand it if you do/done it.
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    I masturbate alot when I have alot of anxiety or emotional tension...must be an ISTP thing though...

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    ^ Nope, I do that, too.
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    Quote Originally Posted by SillySapienne View Post
    ^ Nope, I do that, too.
    nice...

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    Quote Originally Posted by jixmixfix View Post
    I masturbate alot when I have alot of anxiety or emotional tension...must be an ISTP thing though...
    I'm sure thats a heck of alot safer than actually cutting. Why didn't I think of that back then??
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    There is a way to safely burn/cut yourself, fyi.

    Also, one can masturbate in excess to the point of hurting oneself.
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    Quote Originally Posted by ayoitsStepho View Post
    I'm sure thats a heck of alot safer than actually cutting. Why didn't I think of that back then??

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    Come to think of it, there are plenty of ways to safely be a masochist, especially in a safe, and albeit different, loving relationship.



    Push, pull...

    Feeling insecure, being reassured...

    Being willingly hurt then consoled...

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