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    Quote Originally Posted by Sky is BLUE! View Post
    I think it could happen to any type if the circumstances are right. For some people it's a coping mechanism, a release of intense emotions that seem too difficult to handle any other way. It's a sort of tunnel vision behaviour, people doing it are only thinking about the relief they get as a result.
    Agree; I don't know that it's hugely tied to type (I'm sure you could find examples of any of the types doing it), but maybe there are general trends.

    fwiw, my INTP brother did it off and on while he was depressed/becoming suicidal (although none of us knew this was going on until after the fact), and a bit afterwards once he was on meds (probably roughly age 18-22, although I don't know when he started/stopped..just somewhere in there).
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    Quote Originally Posted by Jennifer View Post
    I honestly don't remember, sigh.
    Did we have a thread here about it, ever?

    I'm just saying usually when I run across cutters, the bulk seems to be teen girls of F variety, who are full of conflicted values, self-loathing, and powerlessness. Even ISFJs cut themselves. That "body image" thing hits teenage girls hard.
    Yes, true. I know a few cutters who were quite depressed. They want to feel physical pain in order to remove mental pain. And Introverted feelers usually have to deal with that mental pain the most.

    I never cut until well into adulthood, and because I felt very very locked into a vise... I was under a lot of pressure from family to be something I was not, and it was killing me, but to change what I was doing was seemingly impossible and terrifying... so... I started to cut myself.
    Very upsetting... Depression certainly is a problem. All I can say is that there is a problem and as long as it's a problem it can be fixed. One just has to find out how. I doubt cutting yourself will really fix it.

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    Thank you all for your insight. While speaking with a friend today she told me her 15-year-old daughter had been cutting herself. Her daughter is currently in group therapy and has stopped cutting herself. However, I thought maybe her daughter might feel less self-loathing (if that is why people cut themselves) if her way of perceiving the world was validated through type. To those of you who have experienced this, did learning about your type help you in anyway? Thank You

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    My introversion, at least, has something to do with self-harming impulse. My weak sensing probably contributes.

    I'm not really interested in punishing myself, I like me just fine. I burn myself on rare occasion, and not badly. Mostly, it's about carrying a lot of emotional tension without physical release without realizing it, some major/minor thing triggering me going over the edge of *needing* to release it, and me being unable to cry easily when I need to. For whatever reason, I can't cry. The endorphins are like a crazy drug.
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    I see cutting a plea for attention.

    Or maybe it's just the 'emo/goth' revolution corrupting my perceptions.
    Is it that by its indefiniteness it shadows forth the heartless voids and immensities of the universe, and thus stabs us from behind with the thought of annihilation, when beholding the white depths of the milky way?

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    Quote Originally Posted by OneWithSoul View Post
    I see cutting a plea for attention.

    Or maybe it's just the 'emo/goth' revolution corrupting my perceptions.
    It can be done for attention, but usually the cutters go to great lengths to hide their scars.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Sky is BLUE! View Post
    It can be done for attention, but usually the cutters go to great lengths to hide their scars.
    Hmmm...like heroin junkies? Not being a smart ass. Serious. Heroin junkies will shoot up between their toes (as the legend goes) to avoid detection.

    This to me seems like manifestation of shame, which is essentially the state of one's mind/heart/spirtit/whatever disagreeing with one's actions.

    I've never been tempted to cut myself, thank God. My friend, Mark, cut himself in the past. It was a very rare vent, and I could not detect a pattern in it, and it disappeared as a behavior shortly after I spoke with him about it. When I asked him about his wound, he told me that he had done it to himself. I said "Mark, do you realize that if someone cut you, I would beat them down where they stood? And I know if you saw someone cut/stab me that you would rush to my defense. Why do you do this to yourself? Please tell me."

    He really didn't have a good reason, most of it was because he wanted to show someone else how much he hated a specific situation between the two of them. I told him that made no sense to me, but that I wasn't judging him, only that I was saddened as his friend to see his body injured and to know that he was the cause of it.

    I did not think he was suicidal, he did not fit the profile at all. If I thought he was I would have dragged him to the psych ward and got him checked in, and let him figure out if her hated me over the rest of our lives.

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    Quote Originally Posted by MonkeyGrass View Post
    My introversion, at least, has something to do with self-harming impulse. My weak sensing probably contributes.

    I'm not really interested in punishing myself, I like me just fine. I burn myself on rare occasion, and not badly. Mostly, it's about carrying a lot of emotional tension without physical release without realizing it, some major/minor thing triggering me going over the edge of *needing* to release it, and me being unable to cry easily when I need to. For whatever reason, I can't cry. The endorphins are like a crazy drug.
    Wow, that is interesting. I never would have thought someone would cut in order get a rush from endorphins. I can relate though to the inability to cry, when I was younger this was also a problem for me. Although I could always cry when ever I watched Disney movies!

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    Quote Originally Posted by OneWithSoul View Post
    I see cutting a plea for attention.

    Or maybe it's just the 'emo/goth' revolution corrupting my perceptions.

    My friend's daughter concealed her cuts.So, in her case, I don't think she did it for attention. She is, however, the stereotypical "emo".

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    I've never even felt the urge to do that, even when suicidal. Just doesn't enter my mind. Isn't there a single gene that makes rats or mice harm themselves when under stress? I think they had this gene spliced into their DNA, and they bit themselves a lot. Could be a single gene in humans, too.

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