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    Quote Originally Posted by Synarch View Post
    Fuck that. I would rather overwhelm then overwhelm some more.
    Agree. Maybe it applies to some people.
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    Quote Originally Posted by Synarch View Post
    Fuck that. I would rather overwhelm then overwhelm some more.
    You can overwhelm at your leisure. Once you've underwhelmed. It's incremental.

    Think of all the people you've met that have come off "too ______"
    Relationships have normal ebbs and flows. They do not automatically get better and better when the participants learn more and more about each other. Instead, the participants have to work through the tensions of the relationship (the dialectic) while they learn and group themselves and a parties in a relationships. At times the relationships is very open and sharing. Other time, one or both parties to the relationship need their space, or have other concerns, and the relationship is less open. The theory posits that these cycles occur throughout the life of the relationship as the persons try to balance their needs for privacy and open relationship.
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    What if, by overwhelming, you conform to other's expectations of you and thereby underwhelm them?

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    Quote Originally Posted by proteanmix View Post
    You can overwhelm at your leisure. Once you've underwhelmed. It's incremental.

    Think of all the people you've met that have come off "too ______"
    Yeah, but that's the thing. I don't want to attract people turned off when I jack on the realness. I would rather be myself and find out if we can be cool. Otherwise, I just end up approaching it like I would a sales call, by adopting this persona.
    "Create like a god, command like a king, work like a slave."

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    Quote Originally Posted by DiscoBiscuit View Post
    What if, by overwhelming, you conform to other's expectations of you and thereby underwhelm them?
    I think you're shadowboxing at that point. Your competition is yourself and if you can outdo you then you have a winner.
    Relationships have normal ebbs and flows. They do not automatically get better and better when the participants learn more and more about each other. Instead, the participants have to work through the tensions of the relationship (the dialectic) while they learn and group themselves and a parties in a relationships. At times the relationships is very open and sharing. Other time, one or both parties to the relationship need their space, or have other concerns, and the relationship is less open. The theory posits that these cycles occur throughout the life of the relationship as the persons try to balance their needs for privacy and open relationship.
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    Quote Originally Posted by DiscoBiscuit View Post
    What if, by overwhelming, you conform to other's expectations of you and thereby underwhelm them?
    It could happen.
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    It's the shadow boxing that separates you from the others.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Synarch View Post
    Yeah, but that's the thing. I don't want to attract people turned off when I jack on the realness. I would rather be myself and find out if we can be cool. Otherwise, I just end up approaching it like I would a sales call, by adopting this persona.
    Define realness, plz.

    And I'm not saying hide your real self, just let it out s l o w l y.
    Relationships have normal ebbs and flows. They do not automatically get better and better when the participants learn more and more about each other. Instead, the participants have to work through the tensions of the relationship (the dialectic) while they learn and group themselves and a parties in a relationships. At times the relationships is very open and sharing. Other time, one or both parties to the relationship need their space, or have other concerns, and the relationship is less open. The theory posits that these cycles occur throughout the life of the relationship as the persons try to balance their needs for privacy and open relationship.
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    Quote Originally Posted by proteanmix View Post
    Define realness, plz.

    And I'm not saying hide your real self, just let it out s l o w l y.
    I just don't like being self-conscious and presenting a front all the time. I would rather be my usual and if we get along, we get along.
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    So many things make people likable. I find most people at least superficially likable. A person is especially likable to me if they can: talk about a diversity of topics with a moderate degree of competence, are somewhat self-disclosing and open, true to themselves, trust other people and are trustworthy, easily enjoy the company of other people, are optimistic or at least actively working towards a brighter day, generous, polite, humorous, flexible, able to see issues from multiple different angles, accepting of others and their weaknesses, and playful.
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